"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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okay to date a woman you don't think you can marry?

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I'm dating this girl that I like a lot, but we have our problems and it makes me think I don't want to marry her. I know I'll probably get responses like "just break up with her", but I haven't made a final decision and I still have fun with her. On the other hand sometimes I feel like she thinks this relationship is going to lead into marriage. Any thoughts?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You have issues that would keep you from marrying her but you'd still date her? Well, I guess if you're willing to put up with it while dating her why not (if you don't think it's a waste of your time).
 
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How long have you been dating her? Sometimes it takes months to see things another way. Don't worry about what she thinks. This is about you. If you are happy, stay that way until you're unhappy; simple as that.
 
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yeah. we've been dating for about a year and a half. things are mostly good, but we do argue a lot. I stand up for myself, but sometimes it is impossible to reason with her sometimes. I like her as a person and she has similar interests and somewhat similar goals. I am 22 y/o and am not ready to get married because I don't know how to qualify a girl for something that seems so permanent. I am not ready to get married now, but I don't know when I should start preparing for it as I think it would be good one day, when I feel it is right (not at the moment).
 
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You are obviously not ready nor willing to get married right now, So don't sweat it. Keep seeing her and see where things go.

Oh and when you fight with a woman, you CAN'T reason with them. So stop that.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"Oh and when you fight with a woman, you CAN'T reason with them. So stop that."

actually I could reason with my last girlfriend believe it or not. she was an advanced placement student though. lol.
 
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rrrr, You broke up with the one woman that can have a logical thought out arguement??

You should've done your job as a man and help perserve those rare genes she has. It could affect human evolution!
 
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man. the reason I can't see myself with this girl is because she doesn't know how to deal with her problems. something bad happens to her and she turns into a ball of negative energy. I try...I make an attempt to be a positive person...all the time. I try to help her out and she responds with negativity: saying stuff like "that 'just be happy' stuff may work for you but not for me"...I care about her, but I have the feeling that one of these days, I won't be able to bear her burden anymore.
 
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cloneofstenyhoyer said:
I'm dating this girl that I like a lot, but we have our problems and it makes me think I don't want to marry her. I know I'll probably get responses like "just break up with her", but I haven't made a final decision and I still have fun with her. On the other hand sometimes I feel like she thinks this relationship is going to lead into marriage. Any thoughts?
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would you test drive a porsche, even though you know you're more of a Lexus man?

hell yes!!!
 
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