"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I think I am right.


earlier today, quite bored, one of the days, just didn't have anything to do. So I did what i always do in that situation, went to the horse track lol, just to BS around, there was no live racing, but simuclast racing.

called up an associate of mine who i knew would be down to go with me, we meet up there.

So, about..30 minutes into us playing portland meadows, there was this rather cute woman there by herself. She was doing her thing, reading the form, just..there i supposed. There was this guy, who keep looking at her and was going out of his way to try to talk to her.

Now.. mind you.. it's ovbious, she isn't into the guy. But that's another story. just trying to paint the picture. she was being nice, but it just wasn't there. she wasn't being physically harassed.


she goes to make a wager i suppose, i wasn't watching, she goes on the other side of the room when she comes back, and the guy, follows her and starts trying to talk to her again

my friend, had had enough, and deiced to take action. he went up to her and said something, it was kinda far away, i guess like he was with her or something to get the dude to leave her alone.



Now... and i the only one that thinks he was in the wrong?


he called the guy creepy./ i was like dude, who the **** are you to judge rather a guy is being a creep or not. short of him pushing or literary, harassing her/groping her, you aren't the white knight police. it's up to her,t o determine rather she wants the interest or not, and if she does not, i'm quite sure she can handle the situation herself.


was he in the right for going to do what he did, or was he white knigtin it up?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Radharc

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The way you described it sure seems like white knighting. As long as the guy wasn´t threatening your friend had no business going there.
 

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Can't tell if the dude qualifies as being "creepy" without hearing what he was saying/how he was saying it.

Your buddy WAS "white-knighting". Again, though, whether it was overboard or not depends on the situational specifics. :p
 

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backbreaker said:
I think I am right.


earlier today, quite bored, one of the days, just didn't have anything to do. So I did what i always do in that situation, went to the horse track lol, just to BS around, there was no live racing, but simuclast racing.

called up an associate of mine who i knew would be down to go with me, we meet up there.

So, about..30 minutes into us playing portland meadows, there was this rather cute woman there by herself. She was doing her thing, reading the form, just..there i supposed. There was this guy, who keep looking at her and was going out of his way to try to talk to her.

Now.. mind you.. it's ovbious, she isn't into the guy. But that's another story. just trying to paint the picture. she was being nice, but it just wasn't there. she wasn't being physically harassed.


she goes to make a wager i suppose, i wasn't watching, she goes on the other side of the room when she comes back, and the guy, follows her and starts trying to talk to her again

my friend, had had enough, and deiced to take action. he went up to her and said something, it was kinda far away, i guess like he was with her or something to get the dude to leave her alone.



Now... and i the only one that thinks he was in the wrong?


he called the guy creepy./ i was like dude, who the **** are you to judge rather a guy is being a creep or not. short of him pushing or literary, harassing her/groping her, you aren't the white knight police. it's up to her,t o determine rather she wants the interest or not, and if she does not, i'm quite sure she can handle the situation herself.


was he in the right for going to do what he did, or was he white knigtin it up?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dOFYEQ3p7QQ
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Kailex

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What your friend did was wrong simply because he failed to ask himself one simple question: Why is a "cute woman" alone at a horsetrack acting like she's placing bets?

My guess is the guy that was talking to her probably wasn't up to her "fishing standards".
 

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she looked like she knew what she was doing. she was going at the daily racing form. but point taken.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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