"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Okay riddle me this

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I think I am right.


earlier today, quite bored, one of the days, just didn't have anything to do. So I did what i always do in that situation, went to the horse track lol, just to BS around, there was no live racing, but simuclast racing.

called up an associate of mine who i knew would be down to go with me, we meet up there.

So, about..30 minutes into us playing portland meadows, there was this rather cute woman there by herself. She was doing her thing, reading the form, just..there i supposed. There was this guy, who keep looking at her and was going out of his way to try to talk to her.

Now.. mind you.. it's ovbious, she isn't into the guy. But that's another story. just trying to paint the picture. she was being nice, but it just wasn't there. she wasn't being physically harassed.


she goes to make a wager i suppose, i wasn't watching, she goes on the other side of the room when she comes back, and the guy, follows her and starts trying to talk to her again

my friend, had had enough, and deiced to take action. he went up to her and said something, it was kinda far away, i guess like he was with her or something to get the dude to leave her alone.



Now... and i the only one that thinks he was in the wrong?


he called the guy creepy./ i was like dude, who the **** are you to judge rather a guy is being a creep or not. short of him pushing or literary, harassing her/groping her, you aren't the white knight police. it's up to her,t o determine rather she wants the interest or not, and if she does not, i'm quite sure she can handle the situation herself.


was he in the right for going to do what he did, or was he white knigtin it up?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Radharc

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The way you described it sure seems like white knighting. As long as the guy wasn´t threatening your friend had no business going there.
 

squirrels

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Can't tell if the dude qualifies as being "creepy" without hearing what he was saying/how he was saying it.

Your buddy WAS "white-knighting". Again, though, whether it was overboard or not depends on the situational specifics. :p
 

Warrior74

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backbreaker said:
I think I am right.


earlier today, quite bored, one of the days, just didn't have anything to do. So I did what i always do in that situation, went to the horse track lol, just to BS around, there was no live racing, but simuclast racing.

called up an associate of mine who i knew would be down to go with me, we meet up there.

So, about..30 minutes into us playing portland meadows, there was this rather cute woman there by herself. She was doing her thing, reading the form, just..there i supposed. There was this guy, who keep looking at her and was going out of his way to try to talk to her.

Now.. mind you.. it's ovbious, she isn't into the guy. But that's another story. just trying to paint the picture. she was being nice, but it just wasn't there. she wasn't being physically harassed.


she goes to make a wager i suppose, i wasn't watching, she goes on the other side of the room when she comes back, and the guy, follows her and starts trying to talk to her again

my friend, had had enough, and deiced to take action. he went up to her and said something, it was kinda far away, i guess like he was with her or something to get the dude to leave her alone.



Now... and i the only one that thinks he was in the wrong?


he called the guy creepy./ i was like dude, who the **** are you to judge rather a guy is being a creep or not. short of him pushing or literary, harassing her/groping her, you aren't the white knight police. it's up to her,t o determine rather she wants the interest or not, and if she does not, i'm quite sure she can handle the situation herself.


was he in the right for going to do what he did, or was he white knigtin it up?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dOFYEQ3p7QQ
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Kailex

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What your friend did was wrong simply because he failed to ask himself one simple question: Why is a "cute woman" alone at a horsetrack acting like she's placing bets?

My guess is the guy that was talking to her probably wasn't up to her "fishing standards".
 

backbreaker

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she looked like she knew what she was doing. she was going at the daily racing form. but point taken.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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