"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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BringUrGreenHat

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Well first off, I am a heartless bastard, most of the time. I have a friend, and shes been one of my best friends for many many years and I really value her friendship. Well, the other night I think I really embarressed her. Her two persian friends were over. (I had no idea they were) and she was like you coming over tonight with Brian, the persian girls are gona be here. I asked which ones? she said the ones i dont like, and so I said maybe but who gives a **** about them anyway. Well of course they had to be right there... So my friend says ummm there def right here. and im like well lifes a ***** and then ya die. (basically meaning get over it)... but her friends were really hurt, and this i could careless about... but it also upset her and made her feel extremely embarressed of me. And that makes me feel awful.

PS: I am an evil bastard who usually never feels any remorse. Yet How do I fix the situation with my friend, because I do care about her. And i really dont want to say sorry to them, but i might have to... Damn it, why couldnt she have told me they were there!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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LikRetsam

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Originally posted by BringUrGreenHat
Damn it, why couldnt she have told me they were there!
Would that have changed your opinion? The truth's out, don't fear it. If anything, ask her to forgive you for starting off their night like that.
 

Kidd

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Apologize.
 

DJoneday

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You kind of sound like one of those hot topic kids who's trying to rebel against society

"PS: I am an evil bastard who usually never feels any remorse."

What's the point in that?
 

BringUrGreenHat

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well actually, no. I guess you could say im more like a tucker max. Im pretty normal except that i can be a complete ass sometimes, but i dont care. Except, I'm really loyal to my friends, and I didnt mean to do that to her. Either way, its done now, no reason to apologize when it'd be a lie. Thats another thing that pisses me off, emo kids drive me crazy. Their depressed 24/7! someone should get them drunk and laid.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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