"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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backbreaker

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was with some friends and this chump was telling me about his issues he is having with his GF (what is it about me that guys just start splatting about womena bout i dont' know but they do)

anyway, guy was on the phone with his GF....

they have been dating for 2 months now.

he hears the dog barking in the backrground


she says i need to call you back. this was at like 7pm

she never calls back that night






how do you handle this situation?

what do you do..


what.do....you.do
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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zekko

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he hears the dog barking in the backrground

she says i need to call you back. this was at like 7pm
she never calls back that night
Tough one. I don't think I would next her over just this. I would definitely mark it down as a red flag though, maybe a strike one.
However: The fact that he was already complaining about "issues" with her after only two months makes me thinks she isn't worth the time.

I guess the implication with the dog barking is that someone came to her house and she never got back with him. Some other dude perhaps? A family member? Or maybe she was murdered.

I would just ask her why she never got back with me and give her a chance to explain. If her explanation wasn't good enough, then there's another red flag.
I'm sure some guys here would say pretend not to notice that she didn't call back (It will make you look insecure! Horrors!), but I'd rather call her on it.
 

Ease

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Sounds like your friends need a hug.

Feminity like this is too common here. In less ruined cultures men act like men and know not to cry and lose sleep if their girl doesnt fone.

zekko said:
Tough one. I don't think I would next her over just this. I would definitely mark it down as a red flag though, maybe a strike one.
However: The fact that he was already complaining about "issues" with her after only two months makes me thinks she isn't worth the time.

I guess the implication with the dog barking is that someone came to her house and she never got back with him. Some other dude perhaps? A family member? Or maybe she was murdered.

I would just ask her why she never got back with me and give her a chance to explain. If her explanation wasn't good enough, then there's another red flag.
I'm sure some guys here would say pretend not to notice that she didn't call back (It will make you look insecure! Horrors!), but I'd rather call her on it.
You're right the dog in the background could have belonged to one of the men that came to gangbang his girlfriend in her living room. He should have went over immediately and installed CCTV around her house.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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