"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ok to write a letter to her (co-worker) in this case?

italostud

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Worked with this woman who is my age for a few months. All signs were there as she touched me a lot and liked to get really close to me and would always seem to be around me whenever she could.

I never made a move though even though I should have, but I was just hesitant because we worked together on the same shift. We're both fairly high up in the company so we both have a lot invested in our careers.

I've just found out that I'm moving to another shift and that I won't be working with her anymore. She was quite disappointed when she heard the news and kept trying to talk to me the last couple days we worked together. That was probably the perfect time for me to make a move, but I didn't (stupid of me I know).

With me being on a different shift now, I won't see her much if at all (maybe once every couple of weeks for a couple minutes in between shifts)

Anyways, I'm thinking about just writing her some kind of quick letter and leaving it on her desk. Basically just something quick and flirty and funny.

I'm not sure if this is a good approach though. I'm fairly confident she's into me, but of course there's a chance I could have been wrong and may open myself to the possibility of her showing the letter around etc. I doubt that would happen but you never know.

I don't know. Is the written word ever suitable for trying to pick up?
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

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sodbuster

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NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! When you see her next time,grab your balls [not actually,but act like you have a pair]and tell her you'd like to hang out sometime,ask for her number and date her.

1} you don't want to come off as weak
2} you don't want to have WRITTEN documentation for a sexual harassment charge.
 

runner83

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sodbuster said:
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! When you see her next time,grab your balls [not actually,but act like you have a pair]and tell her you'd like to hang out sometime,ask for her number and date her.

1} you don't want to come off as weak
2} you don't want to have WRITTEN documentation for a sexual harassment charge.
Agreed.

DO NOT write a letter.

She may be interested, or she may be a c@cktease leading you on.

Only one way to find out...
 
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