"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Ok, tell me where I f*cked up!

The Duke

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I don't think you did anything wrong. She was likely using you to get even with some other guy she had been seeing, or was horny and had buyers remorse at the last minute.

Who knows for sure, but it was very impulsive behavior and impulsive girls are usually crazy anyways. Just keep her number and hit her up in a month or so.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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mr. kennedy

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Update: I texted her 8 days after the date. She took a day and a half to reply with "Oh I'm so rude...so sorry this week has been crazy so far, how was your weekend?"

I felt to answer you weren't rude for waiting 36 hours to reply, you seem disinterested. Instead I said "My weekend was awesome, especially Saturday night. You free later tonight?"

Her: "Unfortunately I am not. I have so many appointments this week and plans with friends all weekend. Next week?"
Me: " Next week is busy for me. Keep me posted on what days you're available and I will see what I can do"
Her: "Sounds good :) "

Usually when a chick answers sounds good, she's just happy you gave her a way out without breaking your feelings.
 

mr. kennedy

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^ Thanks. Some good advice there.

I won't initiate. I'll just take this experience as a learning lesson and the next time I get invited to a chick's place I will ravage her like a wild animal.
 

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After trying to bang for so long on a 1st date with various chicks and being accused of being too aggressive I changed my style and became more patient.
you can't go too fast with a girl who actually likes you

I didn't expect to bang going in the date but when I look in hindsight all the signs were there that she wanted to bang.
well I mean yeah she probably did, you should've found a reason to stay the night so you could smash after mario kart
 
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