"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ok, tell me where I f*cked up!

The Duke

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I don't think you did anything wrong. She was likely using you to get even with some other guy she had been seeing, or was horny and had buyers remorse at the last minute.

Who knows for sure, but it was very impulsive behavior and impulsive girls are usually crazy anyways. Just keep her number and hit her up in a month or so.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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mr. kennedy

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Update: I texted her 8 days after the date. She took a day and a half to reply with "Oh I'm so rude...so sorry this week has been crazy so far, how was your weekend?"

I felt to answer you weren't rude for waiting 36 hours to reply, you seem disinterested. Instead I said "My weekend was awesome, especially Saturday night. You free later tonight?"

Her: "Unfortunately I am not. I have so many appointments this week and plans with friends all weekend. Next week?"
Me: " Next week is busy for me. Keep me posted on what days you're available and I will see what I can do"
Her: "Sounds good :) "

Usually when a chick answers sounds good, she's just happy you gave her a way out without breaking your feelings.
 

mr. kennedy

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^ Thanks. Some good advice there.

I won't initiate. I'll just take this experience as a learning lesson and the next time I get invited to a chick's place I will ravage her like a wild animal.
 

devilkingx2

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After trying to bang for so long on a 1st date with various chicks and being accused of being too aggressive I changed my style and became more patient.
you can't go too fast with a girl who actually likes you

I didn't expect to bang going in the date but when I look in hindsight all the signs were there that she wanted to bang.
well I mean yeah she probably did, you should've found a reason to stay the night so you could smash after mario kart
 
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