So,I was talking t my ex earlier this night,well,we weren't really serious,tried to make it when I first saw her,she was one I lost it too,no regrets,although,I did act very afc,i.e,was too serious,validation seeking,pushed for a relationship,why,I don't know,and was kinda weird. Anyway's,long story short,leaves me for some other guy,probably someone who had his stuff more together than me,I get pissed off,blame her for it all,etc. Started to talking to her again out of the blue,feel all nostalgic,think I would like to see her again,talk about it with her,say's maybe when she comes back,she goes to school in another state,and I think,sweet. Well,I wouldn't mind seeing her again,even though what happened.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Ok,some advice need,(somewhat good news)....
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
KontrollerX
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Congratulations bro.
You are second best.
*Hands ItsOnNow his silver medal*
Wear it proudly my friend.
It signifies not only you desiring to indulge in sloppy seconds but also give a girl an ego boost that doesn't deserve one, didn't love you enough to stay with you through good times as well as bad, put another man's c0ck inside her mouth and pvssy and maybe a few other places, has a compromised integrity about her and is totally unfit for a relationship with a man of worth.
Rise, rise, you noble champion.
Show your silver medal to the world.
Or you know...you could throw it in the river and go for the gold.
Just a thought.
You are second best.
*Hands ItsOnNow his silver medal*
Wear it proudly my friend.
It signifies not only you desiring to indulge in sloppy seconds but also give a girl an ego boost that doesn't deserve one, didn't love you enough to stay with you through good times as well as bad, put another man's c0ck inside her mouth and pvssy and maybe a few other places, has a compromised integrity about her and is totally unfit for a relationship with a man of worth.
Rise, rise, you noble champion.
Show your silver medal to the world.
Or you know...you could throw it in the river and go for the gold.
Just a thought.
^^^ Holy crap that was awesome.
Dude, don't get mad about what KotrollerX said. Take it to heart. Leave that biotch alone. Real men move forward, not backwards. I don't have anymore time to spend on you because you've missed the boat.
Dude, don't get mad about what KotrollerX said. Take it to heart. Leave that biotch alone. Real men move forward, not backwards. I don't have anymore time to spend on you because you've missed the boat.
Maurizio 2.0
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That's nice and all, but the danger here is that you use the knowledge that she may or may not be interested in you when she comes back from college as an excuse to sit around and act complacently in the meantime.
Don't get fixated on her and just sit on your hands until she comes back. You have no guarantees as to the specifics of her situation in the future.
Try to go and do your thing, get experience, live life in the meantime. If something materializes for you in the present, you can always bail on it later if things escalate with this chick in the future.
...I should practice what I preach.
Don't get fixated on her and just sit on your hands until she comes back. You have no guarantees as to the specifics of her situation in the future.
Try to go and do your thing, get experience, live life in the meantime. If something materializes for you in the present, you can always bail on it later if things escalate with this chick in the future.
...I should practice what I preach.
I am not mad,just frustrated. But as to the second response,that's just it,I have not been able to move forward. In terms of alot. I think I may have a low sense of self worth,which has been a big problem for me. Plus,long periods of not seeing someone,due to different things. I am not trying to miss the boat,I just want my **** sucked.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Maurizio 2.0
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Just to add:
It's interesting how if you spend extended time away from some person that you end back up with, you feel much less bad and bitter (perhaps not bad at all) toward this person if you are with (read: having sex) other people while you were apart.
It helps to feel like the score is even. ... or that you're leading.
It's interesting how if you spend extended time away from some person that you end back up with, you feel much less bad and bitter (perhaps not bad at all) toward this person if you are with (read: having sex) other people while you were apart.
It helps to feel like the score is even. ... or that you're leading.
Live in the moment! Don't live in the future or the past. Don't get hung up on depression and anxiety. Don't grab the flower and crush it, but grab it by it's stem. She cut you off when she left, and if you cared about YOU, you would have been long gone because you do not deserve her crap. Why? Because you can be happy without her. You don't need her. You don't love her, and you probably never did. Forget a biotch and move FOWARD.
Yes, I get your drift. That happiness and security that you get from this woman or any woman, you should already have it. If you don't have it you better go find it because you can't go into a relationship and get it from a woman. It's not possible. You go in offering your value, not putting out your cup half-full and saying fill it up with value please.ItsOnNow said:That's what I am worried about,not having someone at my side. Not that I think she is someone,but get my drift?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Cool, we're getting somewhere. Well, I see value in you. You know how to use a computer and type on a keyboard. You know how to use the English language and communicate with me. That's outstanding! I also see that you're pretty bright because you understand what I'm getting at.
You need some POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS in your self-talk to replace the negative self-talk. You talk to yourself in a self-doubting manner, and why should you? Take some time and write down your accomplishments. Then speak those as positive affirmations.
Let's see...
You seem smart. Ah, there's one for an affirmation. You know that you shouldn't need someone else for happiness. Ah, there's another one. You could say something like I'm learning not to need other people to feel good about myself. It's easy. Do this and ingrain it into your mind.
You need some POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS in your self-talk to replace the negative self-talk. You talk to yourself in a self-doubting manner, and why should you? Take some time and write down your accomplishments. Then speak those as positive affirmations.
Let's see...
You seem smart. Ah, there's one for an affirmation. You know that you shouldn't need someone else for happiness. Ah, there's another one. You could say something like I'm learning not to need other people to feel good about myself. It's easy. Do this and ingrain it into your mind.
I have been trying too,I have definitley realized where I was looking for validation,have overcome that,well,gotten far from where I was,In terms of happyness,I have just never been able to make myself feel happy all the time,like that glowing,positive personality. But that's it,too much self doubt,feeling of lack of accomplishment's,or not accomplishing what I really want in life.
It's whatever YOU attach to it. If you think it's bad, then it's bad. If you're ok with it, then it's ok. Whatever you attach to it in your mind is what it is. The more bad sh1t you attach to it, the harder time you'll have getting laid because you'll believe all that bad sh1tr about yourself.ItsOnNow said:Ok. You're right and all,but what about when you just don't see anyone,or have never really seen anyone,or haven't slept with x amount,etc?
A car salesman can't sale a car buy begging someone to buy a car.
I've said this before...
The hungry don't get feed. Really think about what this is saying. The needy don't have their needs met.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.