"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ok. So we spin plates, but aren't we just being dependent all the same?

gdathrowaway

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Here's the thing. Spinning plates is effective no doubt. The hotter your plates are, the less you become depressed when any of your relationship with your plates turn a little off.

But isn't that just the same with all oneitis? Just having manyitis?

That essentially, we're still emotionally dependent on women, and it just so happens that it's not just one?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Mr Wright

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I've given up on being worried about how things look on paper because most things seem to look pretty crap on paper. But as long as I'm happy I don't care. Guys are getting to wrapped up in the mental masturbation instead of actually just living their lives and being happy.

If you're an average hetrosexual male, chances are, you are going to end up emotionally involved with a female at some point. What separates the men from the boys is knowing that it doesn't last forever and going in with the attitude that you have to enjoy every moment rather than trying to pick holes in everything she does because that makes it crappy. If you're unhappy, leave. If you're happy, stick around. It's so simple.

Oneitis is a made up term, which simply highlights the fact that you should respect yourself and not spend your time longing after something that you can never truly have. But instead guys have read it to mean that having emotions for a woman is terminal. I love women and I prefer to get emotionally involved even if it's just for a few hours because it makes me happy. But once that moment is over, you have to get your emotions in check and look at it for what it really is.

Life is a gift, so don't spend your time worrying about nonsense like this. Bang chicks and be happy.
 

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Mr Wright said:
I've given up on being worried about how things look on paper because most things seem to look pretty crap on paper. But as long as I'm happy I don't care. Guys are getting to wrapped up in the mental masturbation instead of actually just living their lives and being happy.

If you're an average hetrosexual male, chances are, you are going to end up emotionally involved with a female at some point. What separates the men from the boys is knowing that it doesn't last forever and going in with the attitude that you have to enjoy every moment rather than trying to pick holes in everything she does because that makes it crappy. If you're unhappy, leave. If you're happy, stick around. It's so simple.

Oneitis is a made up term, which simply highlights the fact that you should respect yourself and not spend your time longing after something that you can never truly have. But instead guys have read it to mean that having emotions for a woman is terminal. I love women and I prefer to get emotionally involved even if it's just for a few hours because it makes me happy. But once that moment is over, you have to get your emotions in check and look at it for what it really is.

Life is a gift, so don't spend your time worrying about nonsense like this. Bang chicks and be happy.
Excellent post!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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lying to yourself that you dont need sex.
This. Men are always going to be dependent on women to a certain degree because men are always gonna want sex. Women are the same way. Humans are social creatures, we weren't meant to be completely independent. Spinning plates gives a man leverage that he wouldn't have by putting all his eggs in one basket.
 
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