"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Ok. So we spin plates, but aren't we just being dependent all the same?

gdathrowaway

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Here's the thing. Spinning plates is effective no doubt. The hotter your plates are, the less you become depressed when any of your relationship with your plates turn a little off.

But isn't that just the same with all oneitis? Just having manyitis?

That essentially, we're still emotionally dependent on women, and it just so happens that it's not just one?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I've given up on being worried about how things look on paper because most things seem to look pretty crap on paper. But as long as I'm happy I don't care. Guys are getting to wrapped up in the mental masturbation instead of actually just living their lives and being happy.

If you're an average hetrosexual male, chances are, you are going to end up emotionally involved with a female at some point. What separates the men from the boys is knowing that it doesn't last forever and going in with the attitude that you have to enjoy every moment rather than trying to pick holes in everything she does because that makes it crappy. If you're unhappy, leave. If you're happy, stick around. It's so simple.

Oneitis is a made up term, which simply highlights the fact that you should respect yourself and not spend your time longing after something that you can never truly have. But instead guys have read it to mean that having emotions for a woman is terminal. I love women and I prefer to get emotionally involved even if it's just for a few hours because it makes me happy. But once that moment is over, you have to get your emotions in check and look at it for what it really is.

Life is a gift, so don't spend your time worrying about nonsense like this. Bang chicks and be happy.
 

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Mr Wright said:
I've given up on being worried about how things look on paper because most things seem to look pretty crap on paper. But as long as I'm happy I don't care. Guys are getting to wrapped up in the mental masturbation instead of actually just living their lives and being happy.

If you're an average hetrosexual male, chances are, you are going to end up emotionally involved with a female at some point. What separates the men from the boys is knowing that it doesn't last forever and going in with the attitude that you have to enjoy every moment rather than trying to pick holes in everything she does because that makes it crappy. If you're unhappy, leave. If you're happy, stick around. It's so simple.

Oneitis is a made up term, which simply highlights the fact that you should respect yourself and not spend your time longing after something that you can never truly have. But instead guys have read it to mean that having emotions for a woman is terminal. I love women and I prefer to get emotionally involved even if it's just for a few hours because it makes me happy. But once that moment is over, you have to get your emotions in check and look at it for what it really is.

Life is a gift, so don't spend your time worrying about nonsense like this. Bang chicks and be happy.
Excellent post!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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lying to yourself that you dont need sex.
This. Men are always going to be dependent on women to a certain degree because men are always gonna want sex. Women are the same way. Humans are social creatures, we weren't meant to be completely independent. Spinning plates gives a man leverage that he wouldn't have by putting all his eggs in one basket.
 
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