"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Ok, let's reconsider...

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Why was this thread closed?

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=44849&perpage=20&pagenumber=2

It was, IMO, getting started.

More importantly, iqq hadn't responded yet to specific threads yet--which she usually does, both those deserving and undeserving.

So I was following three different conversational threads seeing what others said and looking for what iq would reply with, and even about to jump into a reply myself when the jarring "Thread Closed" jumped up.

Some threads--I AGREE!--degenerate hideously and go on waythefvcktoolong. More than once I wondered why the mods didn't step in and kill it 3 pages ago!

But this thread was killed too early, and I would kindly ask that it be re-opened.

I liked iqqi's original post. It was an interesting situation with interesting results and showed someone struggling with what thy were doing. It was someone laying themselves out, knowing they'd get flamed but doing so anyway.

And the replies were engaging and interesting, some of the "whatever" variety--the typical mix you find here and then some (which, despite recent rants, is better than 90%+ of postings on similar sites to this.)

I'm not sure that the "thread closed" procedure is, but I would suggest that it takes the vote of 3 mods to close a thread. Their discussion should remain internal--that's their right as mods. But a post of their collective opinion on closing/not closing a thread I would personally find facinating. Seriously. Most have been here awhile and I regret their reduced participation since becoming mods--it's happened with everyone I've seen who's become a mod. But I know they're still very involved. Run the site -- yes --- and I understand the need to be firm with certain members here, but cracking down on the few miscreants is beginning to impinge on serious, dedicated members here.

Let's reconsider--both mods and members.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I have to agree. Mods, unlock the damn thread.
 

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Well, since you asked so nicely...Thread is re-open.
 

Giovanni Casanova

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Moving to Suggestions and Feedback, not that it matters now.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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