"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ok i screwed up... now i need to recover!

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ok so here's is my problem.

i recently started a new job and started flirting with one of the girls i work with. We both like to party so we went out to nightclubs together, totally innocent but i knew i was fallng for her. I think i did all the right things, acted like i wasnt that into her, busted on her and did most things right untill i was in a possition to kiss her. But i didnt because at the time it didnt feel right. The next day at work she was acting cold so i phoned her after we had both finished and acting as calm as i could told her that i liked her and had wanted to kiss her the previous night but if she was going to be a ***** at work i wouldnt waste my time. She got the ****s at this and said it wouldnt have worked out anyway and i apologised and almost begged her to still hang with me socialy. Things are ok now but not like they used to be. I want to get back to where they were before i screwed things up by giving her so much hand.
Im not a sad loser who obsesses over girls but this one has got me beat. Whenever she talkes to other guys at work now i get jealous and is really pissing me off cos its stupid.
Any advice from the masters of the game?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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No metter what you do, you can't get it back the way it was, because there is that unspoken THING between you now. NEVER GONA HAPPEN.

You can't heng out with her because you'll get jealous, and i'll just hurt more and more you see her with other guys.

So the only option is to start henging with other people now, find some other chick. Ignore this one. After a while (no less then 6 months), when she kinda forgets about it, you might have a chance
 
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Congratulations to your "I fell in love with my coworker and it's not working out" post.

Men, please learn this:

If woman falls in love with you during work and you are not in a higher position - she must really like you.

Not the other way around for guys.
 
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ahh but you see this girl is in a higher position that me at work. Im a first year apprentice and she is a fourth year.
It does make it difficult but im %100 sure there was mutual intrest there.
 
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