"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ok, heres a situation...opinions??

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Ok as a side note here - I am the worst at picking up on hints etc so Im confused about a couple things here.

This girl who I meet around last wk - got her number last thurs...hung out for a little bit sat....had lunch with her today.

She asked me to hang out with her tonight but she is bringing her friend and her sister - so not quite the invite that puts a whole lot out there.

However...during lunch she mentioned what a couple of her exs did - one flew planes in the military and another one plays pro baseball:confused: She is pre-law - if that matters at all.

Went in for a goodbye hug after lunch - she didnt pull away but she didnt lean in all that far so I quickly shrugged it off and wasnt worried about playing it off that much, but it was just kinda weird. She calls like two minutes later when Im on my way back to work and was like oh that was so much fun and u better be there tonight.

She was the one to 'chase' me down when we first met and she wanted to met me for lunch today...now Im not the smartest at this stuff but its like she's sending mixed messages.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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don't read into all those little details.just be cooler then her and wait for her to continue to chase
 

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yea she complained that I wasnt calling her:D
 

Neoscarecrue

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they complain because the want u to chase,but we all know they secretly only want guys they had to chase
 

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so far so good but don't make her turn you into an afc
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Originally posted by Neoscarecrue
they complain because the want u to chase,but we all know they secretly only want guys they had to chase
yep...the ones Ive gotten along with best and the ones that ate out of my palms forever are the ones that had to chase me down - which is most of them ha

just cant quite figure out what shes trying to do here - oh well ha
 
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You're in luck. Since she's only in pre-law it means she still has a soul.

(I say that as a law student who no longer feels the cold of a dark winters morning, nor the warmth of a womans touch)

Go for it.
 
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