"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ok so I was convienced by a friend the other day who has finally gotten a girl for himself, to read a book and visit this website. So there I was reading The Game by Neil Strauss, after finishing the book I still feel like it hasn't filled up the hole for me to become confident and talk to a girl. I finished the book in a rush, all 240 pages in 2 days and there I knew I need more material to overcome whatever barrier I got that keeps me from talking to a girl, I'm 19 now and oh I had the opportunity to get laid, I got ****blocked and was too shy to make any major moves, or was just simply rejected. I'm gonna admit it was all going smooth with me and girls till I turned 14 and went onto the computer-nerd status with some sort of a social life. I've went to the gym, I drink every weekend and I get high with my friends..There's this one difference between us though, out of lets say 3 best friends I have 2 are somewhat succesful with girls and have gotten laid and me and the other friend which I played online games with haven't gotten laid. I really became a disaster and I blame my addiction to online games. I'm somewhat in shape because I went to the gym but I have all the negative traits I can have in my personality; I talk low and too fast and I don't know what to say when around a girl.

After looking at all this and reading The Game (****ing best book I've read my entire life btw) I really believe there's still a chance for me to become a player and master the game =). First thing I need advice in is; which books are the best to read *ones which mainly talk about getting confidence and how to overcome the barrier of coming up to a girl and keeping a conversation without looking like a ****** I was looking at the book How to get a girlfriend written by some of the friends Neil Strauss hung out with and also at the book David DeAngelo has written. I'm here to read as many books/material as possible in order to become a dating machine. I hate not being able to do anything when I spot a 8 or a 9...I guess I'm just really shy. For example my first day in college (community college ;/) I sit myself in a math class and there walks in a straight 9 the same one that I've been eye****ing about 2 hours ago in the hallway and sits right beside me..So there I am trying to keep cool and eventually spot her staring at me with the side of my eye and what do I do? Simply nothing.


And holy ****, I wish I've never had touched an online game that way I could be smoother with girls but well, there's nothing I can do about it now other than try and learn what others have perfected which is The Game.

I know there's many great players out there who possibly adapted Neil Strauss's (or simply Style's) techniques and I would like some feedback or response ;)

I need help bad :/ thx in advance.

ps sorry for the long post, this is the longest one I've written my entire life
ps2 I really think I need to work on my speech, in 8th grade while doing my exit project I had people laughing at me and closing windows just so they could hear me, yeah it was pathetic...any tips on that? should I call someone who helps with your speech?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Two books you need are...

1. Awaken the Giant Within

And...

2. 48 Laws of Power

Other than that if you're having trouble talking to chicks maybe try just talking to them like they are guys or whatever meaning you just talk normally with them and be as funny and ****y as you can naturally muster to be.

Remember they are merely human beings and not goddesses that will destroy you if you show some confidence lol.
 

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KontrollerX said:
Two books you need are...

1. Awaken the Giant Within

And...

2. 48 Laws of Power

Other than that if you're having trouble talking to chicks maybe try just talking to them like they are guys or whatever meaning you just talk normally with them and be as funny and ****y as you can naturally muster to be.

Remember they are merely human beings and not goddesses that will destroy you if you show some confidence lol.
Dont forget Supersize your sex Life and the sequel . . DONGFU MASTERS OF THE UNIVERSE. :cuss: :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D
 

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Just learn to tease girls in a playful way, and that will take you far.

I really think I need to work on my speech...any tips on that? should I call someone who helps with your speech?

If you want to learn to be a better public speaker, join toastmaster's:
http://www.toastmasters.org/find/
 

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How do you lead your lifestyle?

Are you a Direct Guy, Can You juss say anything you want and act like a big shot?

or are you the Indirect one... that is cautious to get things done but still does it in an indirect way?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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