"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ok guys PLEASE slap me!

Tortendieb

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I'm sitting at work, bored, got nothing on for today or the weekend, I have several interested girls' numbers but I don't feel like going on a date?

It's probably lazyness but I really don't feel in the mood to call or see anybody... on the other hand I'll have a super boring weekend and regret it by Saturday evening.

How the hell do I beat myself out of this situation, because I'll end up playing video games all weekend.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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penkitten

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maybe you just need a break for dating if you aren't feeling up to it.
rest up and then jump back into your game.
 

ELMER_GANTRY

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Go out with your friends friday night and have a good time, and then you will feel good, and then get a date if you can on saturday when you have a better mind set.
 

Tortendieb

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Yeah maybe I should take a break, thanks...

It's just that I'm leaving the country soon and I want to make the most out of my last few weeks here, now I feel like I'm running out of time. Probably a bad mindset...

Anyway I've been a little depressed because I'm leaving all my friends etc, and meeting new girls seems to be a little pointless now, this is why I'm hesitating... and yes I'm not "super excited" about the girls because it would be just a short fling anyway, and I'm actually more a relationship kind of guy. On the other hand I'd like to get laid at least once more before I leave ;)

But yeah you guys(+girl) are right, I'll do something exciting to cheer me up instead, then get back to it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Tortendieb

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Oh man, it's getting worse... I don't know whats wrong all of the sudden! I've been really edgy these days, snapping at people, feeling cornered... on the other hand my motivation to do anything has completely disappeared. I feel like I really need to do something but don't know what.

If I didn't play sports to expend my energy I'd have gone crazy already. It feels like I lost all my life and reverted to the insecure wimp I was 5 years ago.
 

Furyguy

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My desire for a social life comes and goes in waves. Sometimes I party like a maniac every weekend and go to work hungover (I work weekends) every single day for a couple months straight. Other months I'd rather just sit around and play Civ 5 and read and go to sleep early every night.

You gotta just roll with it, man. Do what you WANT to do, whatever it may be.

The key is it's gotta be really what you want to do. No sitting at home playing video games wishing "Man I wish I were fun enough to be out partying and chasing women tonight, instead of this boring sh*t-head who sits around and plays games by himself."

Like the WoW-nerd who plays games all night, every night, but would trade lives with the ultimate player party animal in a heartbeat if only he could somehow find a way? No doing that ****.

Otherwise I'd say you're good. Sometimes you just gotta unwind and take it easy.
 

BadNews

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Maybe grab your fvcking balls, call one of your 'several interested girls' and set something up? If the date turns out to be lame then leave? Who gives a crap? If you know you're going to regret it on Saturday (as you sit playing fvcking Halo like a chump) then what exactly is the point of this post? CALL ONE OF YOUR (several) INTERESTED GIRLS AND SET UP A FVCKING DATE YOU LAZY POS! (OR go out and find a new 'interested girl' and have fun with that)
 

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double post
 

Tortendieb

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Thank you, it's absolutely right! Forced myself to stop thinking and just set up a date. Now I'm excited and happy again, haha! Sorry for being a whiny b1tch!

I really have a habit of overthinking. One day I need to find the cause of this and exterminate it. Scary, I almost succeeded in convincing myself "i don't want it that much" and "it's no use" :eek:

P.S. "several" is only 2... time to meet more, quick! setting up a plan right now
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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