"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Ok guys PLEASE slap me!

Tortendieb

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I'm sitting at work, bored, got nothing on for today or the weekend, I have several interested girls' numbers but I don't feel like going on a date?

It's probably lazyness but I really don't feel in the mood to call or see anybody... on the other hand I'll have a super boring weekend and regret it by Saturday evening.

How the hell do I beat myself out of this situation, because I'll end up playing video games all weekend.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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penkitten

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maybe you just need a break for dating if you aren't feeling up to it.
rest up and then jump back into your game.
 

ELMER_GANTRY

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Go out with your friends friday night and have a good time, and then you will feel good, and then get a date if you can on saturday when you have a better mind set.
 

Tortendieb

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Yeah maybe I should take a break, thanks...

It's just that I'm leaving the country soon and I want to make the most out of my last few weeks here, now I feel like I'm running out of time. Probably a bad mindset...

Anyway I've been a little depressed because I'm leaving all my friends etc, and meeting new girls seems to be a little pointless now, this is why I'm hesitating... and yes I'm not "super excited" about the girls because it would be just a short fling anyway, and I'm actually more a relationship kind of guy. On the other hand I'd like to get laid at least once more before I leave ;)

But yeah you guys(+girl) are right, I'll do something exciting to cheer me up instead, then get back to it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Tortendieb

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Oh man, it's getting worse... I don't know whats wrong all of the sudden! I've been really edgy these days, snapping at people, feeling cornered... on the other hand my motivation to do anything has completely disappeared. I feel like I really need to do something but don't know what.

If I didn't play sports to expend my energy I'd have gone crazy already. It feels like I lost all my life and reverted to the insecure wimp I was 5 years ago.
 

Furyguy

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My desire for a social life comes and goes in waves. Sometimes I party like a maniac every weekend and go to work hungover (I work weekends) every single day for a couple months straight. Other months I'd rather just sit around and play Civ 5 and read and go to sleep early every night.

You gotta just roll with it, man. Do what you WANT to do, whatever it may be.

The key is it's gotta be really what you want to do. No sitting at home playing video games wishing "Man I wish I were fun enough to be out partying and chasing women tonight, instead of this boring sh*t-head who sits around and plays games by himself."

Like the WoW-nerd who plays games all night, every night, but would trade lives with the ultimate player party animal in a heartbeat if only he could somehow find a way? No doing that ****.

Otherwise I'd say you're good. Sometimes you just gotta unwind and take it easy.
 

BadNews

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Maybe grab your fvcking balls, call one of your 'several interested girls' and set something up? If the date turns out to be lame then leave? Who gives a crap? If you know you're going to regret it on Saturday (as you sit playing fvcking Halo like a chump) then what exactly is the point of this post? CALL ONE OF YOUR (several) INTERESTED GIRLS AND SET UP A FVCKING DATE YOU LAZY POS! (OR go out and find a new 'interested girl' and have fun with that)
 

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double post
 

Tortendieb

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Thank you, it's absolutely right! Forced myself to stop thinking and just set up a date. Now I'm excited and happy again, haha! Sorry for being a whiny b1tch!

I really have a habit of overthinking. One day I need to find the cause of this and exterminate it. Scary, I almost succeeded in convincing myself "i don't want it that much" and "it's no use" :eek:

P.S. "several" is only 2... time to meet more, quick! setting up a plan right now
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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