Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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OK DJ'ers, how should I handled this situation?

white sox bill

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Me and a freind went into an Oreck store last PM. The one salesman in front (he looked pretty AFC'ish) was talking to this HOT blonde who was in her mid 30's. So we are standing there and anonther salesman comes out from back to wait on us. We get the whole vacuum cleaner speial, (even though alls I needed was a belt!) and both my friend and I noticed this blonde was checking us out from the corner of her eyes.

So here was a macking situation but a difficult one. The store was empty, so no backgound noise...the blonde was dealing with this other salesman, we were stuck with this other duffus. To break into THIER conversation would have looked awkwords, and rude.

Since she left first, we could have followed her out to her car, but theres the stalker thing. So our paths crossed, she liked at least one of us and the feeling was mutual, but there wasn't a word said between us....sucks! Any suggestions on what we SHOULD have done!!??
Bill
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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You should have excused yourself from your conversation and walked up to her and ask "I'm out my league with these things, what made you decide to buy one of these things." There's your opening.

From her answers you can find out about the type of housekeeping she does (small apartment/probably single or big house/maybe married). Use other open end questions and a bit of c/f to keep her amused and then close in whatever manner works best for you.
 

Cesare Cardinali

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Bill, dude, you're usually a great poster and I think a mature man. But come on dude. This is pick up 101. Certainly not Mature man fodder....

First of all you and a male friend are buying a vaccum cleaner. Two middle aged guys buying that stuff would make a chick think you guys are gay. But gay or not, there was no reason not to make a move.

Francisco gave good advice. And I would say that saying anything is better than standing there with your male friend discussing the suction powers of the amazing Oreck.

Cesare Cardinali

PS: Moved to discussion.
 

white sox bill

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Yea I know I dropped the soap on this one...and good suggestions Francisco I just had a brain cramp. I guess I have to get back in the game and start ballsy conversations like was suggested.
 
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