Ohh man do I suck!

[Lifeforce]

Today I felt like changing my way off approaching just for fun and to prove I am not a keyboard jockey as some *caugh*lan*caugh* has said. I decided to some street approaches considering it was almost a year ago I did those if you exclude saying hi and chit chatting, well I don't know what the hell I was doing, to quote lord blackadder, I was as effective as a catflap in a elefant house.

It was an intense experience, I am good at meeting women through friends and stuff like that, but this was terrible. I think it has to do with I was emotionally attached to meeting women, I went out TO met women. Normally I just go with the flow and don't care about the result. Well I am not doing street approaches anymore at least. :]

Well it was a good experience too because I learnt that my style is not in the street, I go through my connections to met women. I think that is an important realisation to find a good field that suit you. Meeting people in the street is just not my style anymore.

rant mode off.

 

[Alpine]

Well, congrats on actually getting out there and facing it. Ok so you didn't do so well, so what, you did it a learnt something from it.

I'm just wondering though if you might want to do this again. In some ways it's just a skill that has to be learned and that takes repeated practice.

Of course the other thing might be that you have found it very stressful and are rationalising a reason not to do it again.

 

[TonyTheTigerOI]

What are the chances that your bestest buddy ever knows more than one 9.0+?

What are the chances that he knows the 9.2 who works @ ur favorite resteraunt?

Why limit yourself? Dont be scared of a little reading [for skill] and self improvement [for confidence] and experimentation [for application... its only work and it will only make you a better man. Dont be a *****.

 

[AlwaysExcel]

Ditto on what Tony said. Social circles are the hands-down best situations to hook up in, but I'd rather be able to get what I want at any place, at any time.

Lifeforce, you're absolutely right about how focusing on getting the women messes things up. I personally find it better to focus on improving my skills and experimenting. I'm not saying I don't try to pull the women. I'm saying I try not to have that emotional attachment to success that you're talking about. That emotional attachment signals to me that I'm basing my self worth on whether or not I can pull. To paraphrase an old principle, YOU don't suck, your cold approach skills suck. Your skills CAN improve. I think one of the hardest things to internalize is not feeling bad about failure and taking it personally. I still haven't got that completely mastered. It's really tough. Best wishes if you keep trying cold approaches.

 

[Lifeforce]

Hey thanks for the replies. I'm just not into doing street approaches like this. I mean I approach people on stations when I go somewhere or talk in stores if I feel something to say. When it comes to streets I admit I am a keyboard jockey since I rely everything on what I used to know and old approaches. It was just a harsh revelation to be this bad. :]

Toni, yea you are 100% on the money. I do talk to people and meet at places beside social circles, but only when I feel a natural way to start it, I really do not think about it I just go. Stopping people is really not my style like that, not being able to check for interest as I use to. It's too much stress, I like it calm. I think I can manage without it. But I will improve in my other areas which I use more frequently.

Alpine. Yeah it takes alot of practice. The reason I wrote this rant was that I was very good at getting numbers in the street before, but now I just can't do it anymore. It's really no big deal because I can get it at other places. Just was an intense experience. :] And now lan is right if he call mee a keyboard jockey when it comes to streets. :]

Alwaysexcel. Yeah I can defintly relate to that. I do not feel bad or something, I think it's rather fun, at least I have approached. The title was meant "ohh do I suck" with a large grin on the face.

 

[DeathDealer]

It's not about talking to as many strangers or women you don't know.

It's about knowing yourself and your limits.

 

[AlwaysExcel]

What are limits?