"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Oh s*it....I think looks may not actually matter. For real.
- Thread starter L777
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Bonhomme
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he's peacocking with that style, the bandana, shades, surfer necklace, etc... thus that is a factor of standing out a bit as a cool guy.L777 said:
I like to think that it's looks, race or some other external factor to make life easier for me, but now after reading this thread, I'm like wow, if he can do it, maybe everybody can do it.
The thing is, since you have to be 100% sure you want to get laid for that type of stuff to work, because if you are in an internal conflict about that then I think it will come out as want of confidence.
Guitar_Whizz
Master Don Juan
Good inspirational post btw!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I let my weight get out of control in my life. I was shouting to the world that I had no respect for myself. What I needed to do was find that self respect. THEN, I was able to take off the weight (I'm still progressing in this area). I'm doing more of the things that make me happy.
Just make yourself happy by finding your passions. If it seems like they are 'geekey' pursuits then stop calling then that. I'm a programmer, and I'm a damn ****ing good one. I always tell that to anyone I meet. If they think that's boring or whatever, that's fine. I'm not changing who I am for NOBODY.
Deus ex Pianoforte said:L777, I'm disappointed in you, man. You seemed like such a rational individual the last time we spoke. You're a Briton, too, right? You're supposed to be SUPPORTING order and civility, aren't you?
Yeah, looks don't matter. HUGE revelation!Why do we need to rebel against forum policy in order to cement this already established concept further?
The way I feel is this: believing looks matter is limiting yourself. Believing looks DON'T matter frees yourself. We're in the game of seduction, no? If a man wants to limit himself in the game of seduction, that's his deal. Personally I believe life's way too short to walk around with a self-limiting mindset. If someone disagrees with me, then fine. But why, why, WHY do we need to post endless threads discussing this VERY simple concept? Why? Why, L777? I want to hear it from you.
What was going through your head when you posted a looks thread? I mean, you know they're banned. You know the mods are already overwhelmed with other affairs. I want to know why you believed that there weren't enough looks threads. Tell me why the 85 page thread discussing looks in the Archives section wasn't enough for you. Tell me why you believe that either the rules do not apply to you, or you just don't care enough about them to obey.
L777
Master Don Juan
Because honestly, I didn't really believe it could be done for real. I mean, all the 'naturals' I'd met in my life were better looking than average, until this guy comes along. So I thought I'd just post something real rather than a whole load of theory.Deus ex Pianoforte said:L777, I'm disappointed in you, man. You seemed like such a rational individual the last time we spoke. You're a Briton, too, right? You're supposed to be SUPPORTING order and civility, aren't you?
Yeah, looks don't matter. HUGE revelation!
The way I feel is this: believing looks matter is limiting yourself. Believing looks DON'T matter frees yourself. We're in the game of seduction, no? If a man wants to limit himself in the game of seduction, that's his deal. Personally I believe life's way too short to walk around with a self-limiting mindset. If someone disagrees with me, then fine. But why, why, WHY do we need to post endless threads discussing this VERY simple concept? Why? Why, L777? I want to hear it from you.
What was going through your head when you posted a looks thread? I mean, you know they're banned. You know the mods are already overwhelmed with other affairs. I want to know why you believed that there weren't enough looks threads. Tell me why the 85 page thread discussing looks in the Archives section wasn't enough for you. Tell me why you believe that either the rules do not apply to you, or you just don't care enough about them to obey.
Plus its motivation for others on this board I think.