"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Oh s*it....I think looks may not actually matter. For real.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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he's peacocking with that style, the bandana, shades, surfer necklace, etc... thus that is a factor of standing out a bit as a cool guy.L777 said:
I like to think that it's looks, race or some other external factor to make life easier for me, but now after reading this thread, I'm like wow, if he can do it, maybe everybody can do it.
The thing is, since you have to be 100% sure you want to get laid for that type of stuff to work, because if you are in an internal conflict about that then I think it will come out as want of confidence.
Guitar_Whizz
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Good inspirational post btw!
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I let my weight get out of control in my life. I was shouting to the world that I had no respect for myself. What I needed to do was find that self respect. THEN, I was able to take off the weight (I'm still progressing in this area). I'm doing more of the things that make me happy.
Just make yourself happy by finding your passions. If it seems like they are 'geekey' pursuits then stop calling then that. I'm a programmer, and I'm a damn ****ing good one. I always tell that to anyone I meet. If they think that's boring or whatever, that's fine. I'm not changing who I am for NOBODY.
Deus ex Pianoforte said:L777, I'm disappointed in you, man. You seemed like such a rational individual the last time we spoke. You're a Briton, too, right? You're supposed to be SUPPORTING order and civility, aren't you?
Yeah, looks don't matter. HUGE revelation!Why do we need to rebel against forum policy in order to cement this already established concept further?
The way I feel is this: believing looks matter is limiting yourself. Believing looks DON'T matter frees yourself. We're in the game of seduction, no? If a man wants to limit himself in the game of seduction, that's his deal. Personally I believe life's way too short to walk around with a self-limiting mindset. If someone disagrees with me, then fine. But why, why, WHY do we need to post endless threads discussing this VERY simple concept? Why? Why, L777? I want to hear it from you.
What was going through your head when you posted a looks thread? I mean, you know they're banned. You know the mods are already overwhelmed with other affairs. I want to know why you believed that there weren't enough looks threads. Tell me why the 85 page thread discussing looks in the Archives section wasn't enough for you. Tell me why you believe that either the rules do not apply to you, or you just don't care enough about them to obey.
L777
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Because honestly, I didn't really believe it could be done for real. I mean, all the 'naturals' I'd met in my life were better looking than average, until this guy comes along. So I thought I'd just post something real rather than a whole load of theory.Deus ex Pianoforte said:L777, I'm disappointed in you, man. You seemed like such a rational individual the last time we spoke. You're a Briton, too, right? You're supposed to be SUPPORTING order and civility, aren't you?
Yeah, looks don't matter. HUGE revelation!
The way I feel is this: believing looks matter is limiting yourself. Believing looks DON'T matter frees yourself. We're in the game of seduction, no? If a man wants to limit himself in the game of seduction, that's his deal. Personally I believe life's way too short to walk around with a self-limiting mindset. If someone disagrees with me, then fine. But why, why, WHY do we need to post endless threads discussing this VERY simple concept? Why? Why, L777? I want to hear it from you.
What was going through your head when you posted a looks thread? I mean, you know they're banned. You know the mods are already overwhelmed with other affairs. I want to know why you believed that there weren't enough looks threads. Tell me why the 85 page thread discussing looks in the Archives section wasn't enough for you. Tell me why you believe that either the rules do not apply to you, or you just don't care enough about them to obey.
Plus its motivation for others on this board I think.