Officially dump or ghost?

[Glassguy]

I dont think it matters how you get to where youre going (text, call or face to face) as long as you get there (dumping this chick). No matter the method, the result is still the same. If you think for a second she is going to not take it well, argue and fight, by all means just tell her it's over through text and be done with it

 

[dude99]

Everyone i guess has their style. However you do it just bloody well do it. I give them their walking papers in person. Thats me.

Just put the trash at the curb and be done with it.

No sense in wasting any more time on a dead relationship.

 

[Andrewdiceclay]

Dump

 

[derby1]

You are just parrotting white-knight stuff

No Im Parroting my beliefs on how things should be done, my code of conduct, no one elses....The OP has asked and weve all given our view, which is the whole point of the forum..

 

[sazc]

Help me out here, what is it with this "in person break up" that's so stupendous that one should be completely put out to do it?

I don't mind if women break things off with me over the phone. (Maybe if we were engaged or something would be different)

Yet each time i've done it, they've seemed to express that I should have done it in person (either to me, our social-circle, or whatever). You obviously like it too.

When dealing with white-knight game that doesn't make sense, women explain the source, because they create the rules that they play by. This is part of why they are top rated posters imo - for explaining the rules.

Clearly guys doing it don't have a good reason for doing it, and I sure as hell didn't when I used to do it.

Most of the counter-points given are typical "a man should" stuff - which insults the intelligence. It could come straight out of the mouths of an annoyed woman. I'm even considering that I might have dumped @derby1 over the phone once too.

Regarding the assumption, for what you seem to think of my game, go one level lower and more shameless.

IE, this sort of girl gets ghosted just naturally. Not out of any spite, but because a break-up text makes no sense on this sort of woman.

Feeling obligated to behave in chivalrous ways completely detrimental to self-interest should be burnt in flames imo

idk what to tell you, im a chick posting in an all male forum. When anyone is treating you $hitty, they deserve to be treated $hitty back. In this case, the person is behaving poorly, and she's not a child you can 'teach'. She deserves to be ignored.

Of course you may hear "oh, how horrible of you, ghosting her...blah blah blah blah" from a friend(s) or a social circle but that is a self-serving, after the fact, 'you hurt my ego' response. Of course they are going to say that - they treated you poorly and you ghosted them, they refuse to acknowledge their role in it, instead they shift the blame to you.

I just dont feel as if poor behavior should be rewarded with acknowledgement. She's already proven shes nasty drama. There's a GREAT chance that. if you decide to break up with her in person, more drama and disrespect is going to go down. Why bother?

 

[derby1]

Feeling obligated to behave in chivalrous ways completely detrimental to self-interest should be burnt in flames imo

OP can read our comments and decide for himself, ...youve mentioned a few times about taking her for a meal to dump , who the fck takes someone a meal to dump, probably best trying your way of a sad face emoji or something and a thumbs down

 

[Billtx49]

Keep the best, discard the worst, and it doesn’t really matter how you choose to do it as long as you can live with it.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Dump her immediately.

 

[QuadDeuces]

My plate came over yesterday, the one with fake boobs and thousands of social media orbiters I talked about in other thread.
She cooked for me, we drank wine and she stayed the night.
This morning I noriced about 6 messages from my girlfriend that she loves me and misses me and wants to see me.
Sent her love back and lets meet this weekend.

Tomorrow I’m supposed to meet a new girl from Tinder, but I might flake, because a plate from 8 months ago sent me a message how I’ve been and if I want to catch up. It’s just getting too busy.

I think I have subconsciously already turned my gf into a plate.