"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Official House Party Pickup Guide!

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Okay, I'm sure I'm not the only one here who would like some tips and advice on how to go about being "that guy" at the party and getting with girls.

Lets say you're going to an open house, where you don't know anyone there except for your guy friends you came with.

What is the first thing you'd do?

What is a good way to initiate a conversation with people besides the lame "hey, my name is joe schmoe."

What is a good way to gain social proof within the first 5-10 minutes of getting there, so the rest of the night is smooth sailing without any akward moments?

Feel free to add anymore questions and the guys who are good at picking up girls at house parties, offer your advice.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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yes everyone, almost everyone here partyies , and they have replied to the same topic about 100 times in this forum so use the search button next time.....

even if the search thing on this site is effed up....
 

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okay...well I did use the search button and all I found was "how to throw a party" guides...not on how to pickup girls at parties. Can you link me to some quality threads? Search button isn't helping much.
 

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Well, I don't really party, no car or anything. I'm planning to next year though.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Adone

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It's pretty simple, dude. You have a few beers, loosen up and chat with people, like you already know them.

"Proper picking up", like saying 'hey, i'm xxx, what's your name' or 'i noticed you since i joined this party', sounds pretty lame to me. Just go up to a group of people (it's even easier if there's somebody you know in that group) and say 'hey, what are y'all babbling about' and join the conversation, focusing on EACH AND EVERY PERSON, but with special glances to the girl you like the most.
 

08aisaac

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That sounds about right for getting with a girl. I think I would follow that advice.
 

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Here is what I do:

-drink something (first thing first :D)
-make some chit chat with people you know, until I get warmed up from the beer
-dance a little (by now you should have checked some nice girls at the party)
-eye contact, smile, approach

What can be so hard about this?
 

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"wats good wats good ladies. who needsa burr?" and when she says "i do." say "me too, go get me another.:)"
 

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I personally think its harder to pick up girls at parties where you do know everyone than ones where you don't.

At a lot of parties I go to everyone knows everyone and they usually aren't in a huge area, so everyone sees what other people are doing so girls usually don't like to leave to go upstairs or anything cause they know other people will be seeing this. Any suggestions on this kind of situation?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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