"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Okay, I'm sure I'm not the only one here who would like some tips and advice on how to go about being "that guy" at the party and getting with girls.

Lets say you're going to an open house, where you don't know anyone there except for your guy friends you came with.

What is the first thing you'd do?

What is a good way to initiate a conversation with people besides the lame "hey, my name is joe schmoe."

What is a good way to gain social proof within the first 5-10 minutes of getting there, so the rest of the night is smooth sailing without any akward moments?

Feel free to add anymore questions and the guys who are good at picking up girls at house parties, offer your advice.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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yes everyone, almost everyone here partyies , and they have replied to the same topic about 100 times in this forum so use the search button next time.....

even if the search thing on this site is effed up....
 
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okay...well I did use the search button and all I found was "how to throw a party" guides...not on how to pickup girls at parties. Can you link me to some quality threads? Search button isn't helping much.
 
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Well, I don't really party, no car or anything. I'm planning to next year though.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It's pretty simple, dude. You have a few beers, loosen up and chat with people, like you already know them.

"Proper picking up", like saying 'hey, i'm xxx, what's your name' or 'i noticed you since i joined this party', sounds pretty lame to me. Just go up to a group of people (it's even easier if there's somebody you know in that group) and say 'hey, what are y'all babbling about' and join the conversation, focusing on EACH AND EVERY PERSON, but with special glances to the girl you like the most.
 
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That sounds about right for getting with a girl. I think I would follow that advice.
 
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Here is what I do:

-drink something (first thing first :D)
-make some chit chat with people you know, until I get warmed up from the beer
-dance a little (by now you should have checked some nice girls at the party)
-eye contact, smile, approach

What can be so hard about this?
 
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"wats good wats good ladies. who needsa burr?" and when she says "i do." say "me too, go get me another.:)"
 
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I personally think its harder to pick up girls at parties where you do know everyone than ones where you don't.

At a lot of parties I go to everyone knows everyone and they usually aren't in a huge area, so everyone sees what other people are doing so girls usually don't like to leave to go upstairs or anything cause they know other people will be seeing this. Any suggestions on this kind of situation?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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