"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Of Regrets and Oppurtunity

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Where is AC when we need a dark post? Anyways. I'll take this one I guess...

Of Regrets and Oppurtunity

My question is...what is failure? Is failure just a short term feeling one has when something bad happens? Or do you actually benefit later? You've heard the age old saying about how you learn from failure...but do you? My whole life I've failed, failed, got second best dozens of time but only succeeded rarely. Don't take my words in this post as advice because it's just me putting in what I believe. Beliefs arn't always right.

I regret a lot one time I ended a friendship with the captain of the football team right before high school. He actually called me when we were friends and asked me how to makeout with a girl because he was gonna meet one of the hottest girls in our grade that night. My response "....I don't know man." He says "dude I thought you knew how to!!" Yea. I thought he was a jackass and seriously said "Fvck you don't talk to me," to him like the next month. Huge regret. Missed dozens of oppurtunities with girls and all this ****. I stared at a girl after a whipped cream fight by ourselves at night and didn't make a move. I said "so..." like five times. Just one of my failures. But will this failure ever teach me something about life/girls? Well I've turned into kind of one of those guys girls talk to but don't think of hooking up with. I'm a constantly a sarcastic jerk but been known to be nice on occassion. This year the only girls I've been gaming are hb 6-7's... I think failure will one day help us DJ's not the short term but eventually one day. Don't let failure get you down and just stay confident in yourself.

From this new year so far, hell I'm happy, but am I succeeding? No, not really. Not in what the "Don Juan Community" would consider. I just really hope that my time spent in getting better at music will one day pay off. I really do hope that a lot of the kids in my school grow up to be losers because they waste all their time. Does this make me a bad person? Maybe, but I don't care.

What am I b1tching about? Well, I'm b1tching about I guess that don't spend all of high school trying to get the hottest girl to suck you. It's really, really, not a worry compared to the whole rest of life ahead of you. In the grand scheme of things (yes hard to think about), it doesn't matter if you dated the hottest girl in your school. Recently I stopped smoking ( I was never really THAT into it), because I realized that's not smart to be doing that **** every weekend or so. Because the reason a lot of the kids from high school will become the janitor after they graduate is because all they did was waste time in high school smoking pot and failing.

You see success stories of all these people like Bill Gates, musicians, CEO's of companies and they weren't the captain of the football team. (Btw I played football for two years and it does NOT make you get girls.) And these successful people were investeing time instead of spending it at an early age. AND IT PAYS OFF. YES. THEY ARE SUCCESSFUL. My new thing is investing time because I'd rather be what I am now (medium social rank like friends with a lot of pop kids) than be a loser the rest of my life. Please don't think that high school lasts forever because it doesn't. Take oppurtunity to invest time and just think of the outcome.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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bravo my friend. I'm glad you realize this in high school. I'm in college right now and it's the same. Some people waste time drinking and partying allthe time while their parents shell out $40 grand a year. For what? For some lays and beer? I think not. They're throwing away their future. Just try not to get dragged in with them.
 

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Potbelly said:
bravo my friend. I'm glad you realize this in high school. I'm in college right now and it's the same. Some people waste time drinking and partying allthe time while their parents shell out $40 grand a year. For what? For some lays and beer? I think not. They're throwing away their future. Just try not to get dragged in with them.
I do my fair share of nonsense partying (enough to satisify me enough.) But yeah investment of time is the way to go. Right on.
 

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REGRET! REGRET!! REGRET!!!


For homecoming I met a girl there and we danced. But she couldn't go to my friends house for whatver reason. This girl 5.9 was spending the night there though. I was sitting on the couch talking to my friend. She started hitting on me and somehow we madeout and it lasted 20 minutes. I FEEL LIKE ****. I'VE NEVER FELT WORSE OR MORE CONFUSED OF WHO I AM. She's like right under do-able. It's horrible. ON top of that my date might find out whose okay looking and i like her some. But this ***** that mind raped me I HATE. I HATE HER. THe only reason I didn't end it was because I was desperate because my girl couldn't come to this girls house to spend the night. Oh my god... My friends are really pissed at me. Guys never "settle" for short term pleasure. It's a horrible, horrible idea.

Anyone know what to do?!?!!?!?
 
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