"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Ode to the Old Guys

Bible_Belt

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fwiw, your outlook on life will probably change a lot in the next ten years. I think it does for everyone. The consequences of your actions become more noticeable. In WW2, the British would not let males over age 23 be fighter pilots, because that was about the age that the typical male realizes his own mortality, and a fighter pilot who is worried about dying is a waste of a plane.

I used to binge drink, do any drug I could get, bang any ho I could get, and engage in any opportunity for risk-taking behavior. I have not given up all of these things, but I am certainly more conscious of bad possibilities.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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In fact, you dont want to know what else ive been thinking and writing - ive written stuff as of late that would make Shakespeare look bad
Post some of it. I bet it's not very good.
 

ElChoclo

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Don't get sore Shezzler;

1 Yes we've got partners, and lots of expartners. And children.

2 No we don't discuss seduction with them. Do you discuss bait selection with a fish.

3 No they don't expect performance (see 2)

4 No I don't tell them about my advice here. Does the priest tell everyone what he just heard in confession?

Just like the Seinfeld joke. Shezzler you're just a human being. Big deal. I've made people.
 

boulepiquante

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SHEZZLER
I VE READ YOUR BLOGG
AWESOME AS OUR u s FRIENDS WOULD SAY
I LIKED THE BIT about the ugly dude dating the girl we fancied but we were too damn shy to approach

prinsloo
suidafrika
france
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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