Immaculate
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Should I keep chatting with her in AIM or just get the hell out.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Originally posted by WestCoaster
Like the Bay Area 'ho he slapped a "9" on (she was a 6 at best), this one is topping out at 5 -- if that. The first pic of her smiling is the best and on that one she's coming in at 5.5.
Hopefully she has a nice personality, she's not higher than a "6" at best. Definitely not worth this long thread ... my goodness Immaculate, you need to get out more.
This girl is cute, not beautiful, just cute. And yes, I love her personality.Originally posted by WestCoaster
Like the Bay Area 'ho he slapped a "9" on (she was a 6 at best), this one is topping out at 5 -- if that. The first pic of her smiling is the best and on that one she's coming in at 5.5.
Hopefully she has a nice personality, she's not higher than a "6" at best. Definitely not worth this long thread ... my goodness Immaculate, you need to get out more.
It's time for you to learn the next step along the path of the DJ young Grasshopper, Skywalker, Apprentice (take your pick).Originally posted by Immaculate
She wanted me to come over tonight and I told her I already have a date. She acted a bit mad and countered she had a date Thursday (I think she's lying).
Anyway why would she get mad? She's the one who keeps saying we aren't compatible and it will never work. And when we went to Best Buy together I tried to hold her hand and she said "hey no public displays of affection, who knows who might be in there"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
In my opinion this was a little over the top."I think you're old enough when you realize that there
is no 1 perfect person, have had enough relationships
to know what you REALLY find important in a partner,
and are comfortable enough with each other that you
are the same person with your partner as when you are
alone. Love isnt pretty, there will be times when you
have to be there at each others worst- like during
sickness. After that, you just have to understand that
no one person can fill all the voids in your life, so
you have to be committed to stick with that person
despite their shortcomings and not let it grow into
anger and resentment. Encourage each other to have
other friendships, support one another as you are one
team, remember to make them feel desired and special,
and be willing and able to adapt as they grow and
change. And remember that there are no rules to what
is acceptable and not acceptable in relationships...
make your relationship the way you and your partner
want it, not what the rest of society considers the
norm.
But more than anything else, you have to have to be a
challenge for each other. No one wants someone that
they have wrapped around their finger and no one can
last as a doormat forever. A little give and take that
keeps you both on your toes is the perfect way to keep
you both motivated, committed, and happy.
Lets face it, though, as a society we are always
looking for the next best thing... from jobs, to cars,
cell phones, ring tones, face lotions, and people.
With a seemingly infinite source of new faces and
personalities in our lives and online, its all to easy
to one-up or second guess the person you're with. So
why fight it? Go with the flow and have fun meeting,
learning, growing, and experimenting with different
people until you find someone that trumps it all and
you just know- because there is no rational way to
analyze love or to justify it to others... you just
know because, well, you know. "
Then why does she still have me on her AIM buddy list? Wouldn't she have deleted me? I logged on today and she was online and said Hi to me, then said she was busy and logged off/blocked me. She hasn't been online since.Originally posted by Slickster
She says "I don't want to hang out with you anymore."
and you say.....
In my opinion this was a little over the top.
If it were me.....
She: "I don't wanna hang out with you anymore."
Me: "See you around."
Really Mac do you actually think that email is going to get her back? Who knows with this crazy chick it probably will.![]()
But when you are out there dealing with a more normal person I think an email like that will just drive the women further away. When she says she's not interested then what makes you think she wants to hear about your philosophies on life.
Not interested means not interested.
Good luck.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Immaculate...this woman cares less about this situation than you do...which gives her all the power and you all the vulnerability. I am telling you this because I am typically the one who cares less about the guy and relationships I get involved in. There's only been a couple of guys I actually cared about losing. All the others I could give or take...whatever.Originally posted by Immaculate
That's fine.
This is great practice for me.
Originally posted by Wyldfire
Immaculate...this woman cares less about this situation than you do...which gives her all the power and you all the vulnerability. I am telling you this because I am typically the one who cares less about the guy and relationships I get involved in. There's only been a couple of guys I actually cared about losing. All the others I could give or take...whatever.
You ARE getting attached and you're trying to pretend you aren't. You're talking about this woman constantly and you are already changing things to suit her. You're going to get hurt if you keep it up.
what? What else should I do?Originally posted by Wyldfire
*shakes head*
You keep claiming you're done with her but you keep going back again. I don't believe for a minute that you're going to stop...in fact...you are probably already playing this scenario in your mind of her being your girlfriend.Originally posted by Immaculate
what? What else should I do?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.