"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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danthemann

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Ive been seeing this chick on and off for a year now. basically we are ALWAYS on and off and its because of her always trying to get with other dudes but yet she wants to **** me yet insists on a serious relationship. short story short... shes gotten into this routine where she tries to get me really pissed by screwing me over and then shell keep blowing me up forever.... until i bang the **** out of her but then she wants to do it all the time, every second of every day and i get extremely suffocated.. break it off.. she gets mad thinks im seeing someone else... rinse repeat.

my question: i think this is pretty unhealthy as i like the chick a lot. but is it worth it if i can bang her whenever i want and just have her on a leash? or would it be better to just stop talking to her all together...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Purefilth

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You like her, she's giving svx I don't see the problem here. Maybe she just gets off on having drama, a little excitement in her life?
 

Greasy Pig

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Yeah, I had a similar situation with a chick for two years. She'd get all clingy and angry when I insisted on keeping it casual, tell me not to call her again, and then a month later she'd be hitting me up for a fvck.
Same, the situation just kept repeating itself...and I fvcking loved it!

Just as long as you don't have feelings for her, keep using her as a cvm dumpster.
 

Scars

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I had a relationship like this once, and it was extremely unhealthy. At all times, I felt I was in control, but I really wasn't. I wasn't in control of my emotions. After awhile I became accustomed to the routine. I realized if I ignore her long enough she'd always come running back. I'd put up a little wall for awhile, telling her I couldn't do this anymore, and she just pursued harder. After awhile, it just became a game. I knew how to get her back, but I didn't know how to stop getting her to sleep with other dudes. (Some of the times, she was trying to get at my "friends" to get back at me.) Extremely unhealthy, and it wasn't until a gigantic blow out where I finally got rid of her for good. I had to change my phone number twice because of her, even that didn't stop her. It wasn't until she moved 3 states away before she finally let go. But she still tries to call me from time to time, which I simply ignore. I know anytime she just got pump and dumped or is feeling lonely because that is when she hits me up to reconcile. These types of women are extremely unhealthy. The sex may be good, but if it's having a negative effect on your life than next her immediately. The only way I'd say continue with this path that you're on is if you can gain complete control of your emotions, but that is easier said than done.

-Scars
 

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wow scars your post hit my situation dead on. thanks for the insight. Any tips to controlling your emotions better?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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