floydtheater07
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Alright, so it's been a long time since I've even visited this site (which isn't a bad thing...the main reason I don't come here anymore is that a lot of what I have learned has helped me to the point where I don't need much more advice), and now I find myself in a situation where I may benefit from the knowledge and opinions of others.
So, I am a college student. Earlier this semester, I noticed a real cute girl in two of my classes. The professor in one of these classes split the class up into groups for an exercise, and this girl was in my group. Anyway, she was wearing a t-shirt from her high school and I realized that our home towns are very close together, so I started some light conversation with her. I added her on facebook, and damn, turns out she's "In a Relationship". Now ok, I did check out the profile of her boyfriend, and the dude doesn't seem like a "find". However, I didn't know much about their relationship, so who was I to judge?
Anyway, I noticed something interesting in the two classes that this girl and I have together. Whenever either professor calls on me to read an answer or something, this girl (let's call her Lisa for the rest of the post) looks over at me. Now, I'm speaking, so this doesn't seem to out of the ordinary, however I noticed that Lisa NEVER looks over at anyone else when they are talking. Just me.
So, a midterm in one of these classes was coming up, and I asked Lisa if she wanted to study with me one night. She did, so I picked a time and day to meet at the library. We got there and decided really quickly that we knew the material well enough, so we just talked for a couple of hours. Lisa's behavior made me think she was definitely attracted to me. She kept laughing a lot at my jokes and sarcastic comments, even the ones that I knew were not funny. Every time I expressed an opinion, she agreed with me (actually hearing her say "Oh I know!" got kinda annoying). Of course, I made sure not to agree with everything that she said (and made sure to be honest about it...no point in disagreeing if you actually, well, agree). We were sitting next to each other, and within about half an hour, Lisa had her whole body pointed at me, and she even initiated some very light kino (a high five...but this girl doesn't seem to be the type to just randomly do that, especially in regards to something so small I can't remember what she wanted to high five me for). Anyway, most interestingly, she didn't mention her boyfriend ONCE (and let me tell you, there were more than a few times during the conversation when it would have made total sense for her to do so).
So, the night ends, and I think that she is attracted to me. She's not the overtly friendly type, but she was incredibly friendly and supplicating with me.
However, over spring break I send Lisa an e-mail telling her that she should come over my dorm to hang out some time after break. She said something along the lines of "I'd love to. But, just because I'm a girl and you're a guy, I don't want you to get the wrong impression. I have a boyfriend. I hope that doesn't make you not want to hang out." I responded with something like: "You have a boyfriend? Well damn, there's no point in hanging out now at all. Actually, I noticed you were in a relationship when we became friends on facebook. Ya know, I think that a guy and a girl can hang out without it leading to "something else". I guess I'm just old-fashioned". She responded saying it was cool, she was sorry she brought it up, and she thought we should definitely hang out after break.
Now, here is where I need an opinion. In my experience, the second a girl mentions that she has boyfriend, you know that your chances of getting with her are about equal to your chances of winning the lottery. It just doesn't happen. However, all her behavior up until them (and even some after then...apologizing for bringing up the boyfriend being an example) made me think she definitely was attracted to m.
Do you guys think that I still have a shot and I am taking the fact that she mentioned her boyfriend too seriously, or was that the sign to just give up on this one and move on to something else?
So, I am a college student. Earlier this semester, I noticed a real cute girl in two of my classes. The professor in one of these classes split the class up into groups for an exercise, and this girl was in my group. Anyway, she was wearing a t-shirt from her high school and I realized that our home towns are very close together, so I started some light conversation with her. I added her on facebook, and damn, turns out she's "In a Relationship". Now ok, I did check out the profile of her boyfriend, and the dude doesn't seem like a "find". However, I didn't know much about their relationship, so who was I to judge?
Anyway, I noticed something interesting in the two classes that this girl and I have together. Whenever either professor calls on me to read an answer or something, this girl (let's call her Lisa for the rest of the post) looks over at me. Now, I'm speaking, so this doesn't seem to out of the ordinary, however I noticed that Lisa NEVER looks over at anyone else when they are talking. Just me.
So, a midterm in one of these classes was coming up, and I asked Lisa if she wanted to study with me one night. She did, so I picked a time and day to meet at the library. We got there and decided really quickly that we knew the material well enough, so we just talked for a couple of hours. Lisa's behavior made me think she was definitely attracted to me. She kept laughing a lot at my jokes and sarcastic comments, even the ones that I knew were not funny. Every time I expressed an opinion, she agreed with me (actually hearing her say "Oh I know!" got kinda annoying). Of course, I made sure not to agree with everything that she said (and made sure to be honest about it...no point in disagreeing if you actually, well, agree). We were sitting next to each other, and within about half an hour, Lisa had her whole body pointed at me, and she even initiated some very light kino (a high five...but this girl doesn't seem to be the type to just randomly do that, especially in regards to something so small I can't remember what she wanted to high five me for). Anyway, most interestingly, she didn't mention her boyfriend ONCE (and let me tell you, there were more than a few times during the conversation when it would have made total sense for her to do so).
So, the night ends, and I think that she is attracted to me. She's not the overtly friendly type, but she was incredibly friendly and supplicating with me.
However, over spring break I send Lisa an e-mail telling her that she should come over my dorm to hang out some time after break. She said something along the lines of "I'd love to. But, just because I'm a girl and you're a guy, I don't want you to get the wrong impression. I have a boyfriend. I hope that doesn't make you not want to hang out." I responded with something like: "You have a boyfriend? Well damn, there's no point in hanging out now at all. Actually, I noticed you were in a relationship when we became friends on facebook. Ya know, I think that a guy and a girl can hang out without it leading to "something else". I guess I'm just old-fashioned". She responded saying it was cool, she was sorry she brought it up, and she thought we should definitely hang out after break.
Now, here is where I need an opinion. In my experience, the second a girl mentions that she has boyfriend, you know that your chances of getting with her are about equal to your chances of winning the lottery. It just doesn't happen. However, all her behavior up until them (and even some after then...apologizing for bringing up the boyfriend being an example) made me think she definitely was attracted to m.
Do you guys think that I still have a shot and I am taking the fact that she mentioned her boyfriend too seriously, or was that the sign to just give up on this one and move on to something else?