Odd Situation ( Need Help )

[Stu951]

Hi everyone, I've been kind of plagued with this problem for a couple weeks and maybe it's just me....

I've read Don Juan's book's and studied them numerous times as I find it very positive and it works 98% of the time if used correctly.


Anyways..

I'm known this girl since Augest we've talked and everything is going positive, I didn't pamper her I kept distance did everything almost right by the book and dated other women at the time too.

It kept progressing to the next level, and she expressed feelings towards me of "liking me alot". I made sure she wasn't a gold digger or anything like that either in this situation as I've had it happen in the past. Things kept getting more positive and progressed til everyone of our friends is considering us boyfriend and girlfriend......

This was kind of different for me as I don't like to assume anything so I asked her.... Where she see's us in the future and so forth and she see's us dating but not right now...

I wouldn't bring this to your guys attention but we've been on dates, she calls the majority of the time and I think became pretty attached. Sexually very attracted to eachother and we do everything like a couple do but with out the officialness of real bf gf?

I've been in 5 serious relationships spanning half a year plus, and a new chapter just seems to be revealed everytime.

Alittle about myself, I keep myself busy with session work as a musician, premier soccer and going to college to study business and work for a great telecom company.

I keep fit (7 minute mile, 10 km bike ride and 1200 situps 5 times a week), and not to brag I got the better end of the looks and I'm very fortunate for it. With the books I've read and being only 20 years old I'm only learning more and more....

So guys what do you make of this? Most of the girls I talk to who I keep as friends consider her luckly and fortunate to be dating me as they say I'm the better looking of the two in the relationship.... but what relationship?

Someone help me put this in perspective....

 

[Chemistry]

Happy with the way things are?

If you're doin the meals thing... fvckin etc. then the lack of a label on it isn't a thing...

Enjoy it for what it is and chill out... I mean if everyone else is seein it as a relationship then all signs point to it being one...

Another question to pose, is if she came out and said it was a relationship would it differ things any?

If not, then that's what you've got...

 

[Stu951]

No it wouldn't differ anything at all if she cameout and said anything, she sometimes tells all her friends that I'm not her boyfriend most of them think otherwise. So I'm left just needing a perspective from someone here thats all, I'm totally chill and relaxed just curious....

Of course I made my intentions clear that I'd like to date her, just have to wait and see I guess.

 

[xhikari]

talk about coincidence
i am going through the same thing right now in fact
and i have no idea why anyway but i just try to go with the flow
of course no AFC-ness come in the way, i just be myself and be like what i was to her when we first met....
the girl still calls me, tries to see me whenever possible
but it's just the "not now" thing....same huh....

 

[Stu951]

Yea I think the truth or what's arriving from this situation is I might be losing feelings for her and her gaining feelings as this progresses further and further......

 

[squirrels]

Fvck a label. Stop trying to control and classify everything and see where this takes you.

 

[Kaine]

How about try this. Tell her you've had other girls show interest in you but you don't want to hurt her feelings. Tell her you want to clarify that she does not want an exclusive relationship (since you've expressed intent already) with you so it's ok for you to see other people.

 

[xiola]

who cares. if you are happy with it then just go with the flow. if you are unhappy with it, then talk to her. sounds like she may be scared of labeling it so just take your time and see where it goes

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