You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Those are some of the many things that make us human. Even Arkansas fansbackbreaker said:you don't know my political affiliation, my religious affiliation (though if you have been around long enough you should) or my view points.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Since less than half of working age people are employed right now I'd guess that no, they don't have jobs.5string said:When I watched the protesters on TV, I could not help but wonder, do they have fvckin jobs? How do the find the time for this sh!t?
Then my next question would be....do they choose not to work, or are they unemployed because of a bad economy?Bible_Belt said:Since less than half of working age people are employed right now I'd guess that no, they don't have jobs.
I agree.Bible_Belt said:I agree that revolution is not a magic answer. Prior to Castro, Cuba had a similar gap between the rich and the poor. Castro promised to end inequality with his revolution, and he succeeded. Now everyone is equally poor.
:crackup:Bible_Belt said:Since less than half of working age people are employed right now I'd guess that no, they don't have jobs.
Nice strawman you built there.....Danger said:To sum up, we should succumb to mob rule, despite that for the most part these people could get jobs if they truly wanted them.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I don't see how demanding accountability, ending corruption in gov't and finance, and bringing back sensible financial regulations is "succumbing to mob rule." I think for the most part the protesters demands are fairly reasonable....all I said is if we ignore or dismiss them we do so at our own peril. I have history to back me up.Danger said:I read your post twice. There is no strawman.
I reference the quote above where you mention "revolt". This is essentially succumbing to mob rule if demands are not met.
You may not like what it is, but when you peel away that nice pretty veneer you've built, revolt is mob rule. Just as "paying off the mob" to avoid a revolt is still mob rule.
What entitlement? We didn't become the world's largest economy by sitting around demanding handouts all day. Americans are considered the hardest working, most productive people in the world. We also have the least worker benefits and social programs of any industrialized nation. A few lazy bums mooching off welfare does not represent the "typical American"The other part of the problem is the extreme class warfare being harnessed by those currently in power, combined with the entitlement attitude of the typical American.
Well if we're going to use anecdotal evidence, my ex-gf who used to work at a dept store, told me how management would routinely pass over unemployed white collar workers due to fear they would leave as soon as they found a job in their field. Many job candidates who lack this "entitlement" you speak of routinely get passed over for being "overqualified"BTW, as for jobs, during lunch I saw three help wanted signs. And that was only during one hour with most of my time eating at a restaurant. None for glorious office jobs, but they were for full time employment.
I don't buy the lack of jobs bull$hit. They just aren't the jobs that people believe they are entitled to have.
lol don't think so buddyBible_Belt said:But then Auburn is going to beat Arkansas on Saturday, so I'll feel sorry for him as a Razorback fan. It all balances out.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Exactly. Corporations and entrepreneurs are a good thing. I mean they give everyone jobs... wait no they don't most have been outsourced. And they compete to give everyone a better product... wait many don't and collude to fix prices and buy out competitors (AT&T). And they pay their fair share of taxes... wait no they don't many have specialized lawyers and accountants to skirt tax rules and lobby for lower taxes and more grants while giving little in return.Julius_Seizeher said:Any man with any sense of self-worth, self-esteem, and the desire to be free (and to bear the responsibility freedom entails), would spit on these looters and never be associated with their impotence and evil.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.