"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Observations on Online Dating

Mertz09

Mertz09

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I have recently jumped into the Online Dating scene, about 4 months ago. I have had plenty of dates and am spinning a few plates as a result.

1. Online dating is time consuming in that you can spend a lot of time on the apps.

2. Some of the profiles of women on these sites are funny and some are outrageous. Amazing how intitled some women are. They have a lengthy shopping list of "demands". There is a good chapter on this in the "Rational Male". Tomassi makes up a profile and has fun with stating "his" demands in response to those that he saw on the app. Very funny!

3. When I meet of the "matches" for a date most of them did not seem to pay much attention to my profile on the app. Maybe it is just me but.
I want to say "didn't you pay any attention? Isn't that the reason that you agreed to meet me for a date...the info in my profile."

It has been somewhat entertaining, but I may get bored and lay off the apps for awhile.

Any thoughts??
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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It's a numbers game. Always has been always will be. Men who don't understand this and get attached to results from a few women don't do well.

In regards to what you bring up...yes it can be, devise a system that minimizes your time while maximizing your value from it.

Yup, it helps screen women out by reading their profile so you waste less time.

Pretty common, although many also do read your profiles. Like men, many agree based on looks alone.
 
Michael Chief

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It's very easy for our human brains to focus on the negative. That goes for both men and women, of course.
Mertz09 said:
It has been somewhat entertaining, but I may get bored and lay off the apps for awhile.
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It's never a bad idea to take a break from the apps.
 
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