Why is it that most of the time the loud and obnoxious guys that act like a$$holes get all the girls? It seems like that the person who talks the most and tells the best stories gets the girls and is the life of the party. Can the calm and quiet guy also be a pua?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Obnoxious or quiet?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
insanity
Master Don Juan
loud, Obnoxious= fun, has balls and doesn't care what anyone thinks.
quiet= boring, unconfident, always has to think about what they were going to say.
think about it. if you were a girl. who would you want to date. someone loud and looking to have fun. or someone whose quiet, reserved and basically blends in with the crowd instead of leading.
get a few beer into ya and the problem will be solved
quiet= boring, unconfident, always has to think about what they were going to say.
think about it. if you were a girl. who would you want to date. someone loud and looking to have fun. or someone whose quiet, reserved and basically blends in with the crowd instead of leading.
get a few beer into ya and the problem will be solved
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I don't know the answer to the question, but I've noticed the same phenomena occur.
I think a part of is something we read about in psychology class: the person who talks the most in a group naturally becomes the leader of the group. But then again, the person who listens the best can achieve the most power because they will have the best understanding of the group dynamics...although that is only if they choose to act upon it.
Another thing is that, I personally find very shy/quiet people to be scary. It's almost like they feel they are too good to talk to you, and when you have someone shy/quiet in a group it is a little awkward so you try and avoid them. I used to be the shy/quiet one a long time ago, and the reason I no longer am is because:
Haven't you heard the saying, be careful of the quiet ones? (or something like that) ...think of murderers, pedophiles, and other psychos...they're usually not loud and obnoxious, but very quiet, to themselves, and very creepy.
I think a part of is something we read about in psychology class: the person who talks the most in a group naturally becomes the leader of the group. But then again, the person who listens the best can achieve the most power because they will have the best understanding of the group dynamics...although that is only if they choose to act upon it.
Another thing is that, I personally find very shy/quiet people to be scary. It's almost like they feel they are too good to talk to you, and when you have someone shy/quiet in a group it is a little awkward so you try and avoid them. I used to be the shy/quiet one a long time ago, and the reason I no longer am is because:
Haven't you heard the saying, be careful of the quiet ones? (or something like that) ...think of murderers, pedophiles, and other psychos...they're usually not loud and obnoxious, but very quiet, to themselves, and very creepy.
insanity said:loud, Obnoxious= fun, has balls and doesn't care what anyone thinks.
quiet= boring, unconfident, always has to think about what they were going to say.
think about it. if you were a girl. who would you want to date. someone loud and looking to have fun. or someone whose quiet, reserved and basically blends in with the crowd instead of leading.
get a few beer into ya and the problem will be solved
Ah, but then there's people who think:
Loud and obnoxious (attention ***** who always has to be the center of attention). I know plenty of people who are outgoing, but they're always having to be the center of attention, which is a big weakness.
quiet (shy, but perhaps contemplative.)
Sometimes its good to know when to be the quiet person, and when to be the life of the party. I'm an entertainer. But I'm not always "on" when I'm not performing. Sometimes I am, sometimes I'm not.
Past working towards being seen as more fun, you can't always drive yourself insane by wondering if people will like you. Or will find you attractive. Sometimes they won't. Don't think for a second you have to become a full blown jerk all the time (being a great person with a sense of humor can be good, so long as you're not "dull" all the time). Just be interesting and non creepy.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.