Obnoxious or quiet?

[ChrizZ]

Why is it that most of the time the loud and obnoxious guys that act like a$$holes get all the girls? It seems like that the person who talks the most and tells the best stories gets the girls and is the life of the party. Can the calm and quiet guy also be a pua?

 

[insanity]

loud, Obnoxious= fun, has balls and doesn't care what anyone thinks.
quiet= boring, unconfident, always has to think about what they were going to say.

think about it. if you were a girl. who would you want to date. someone loud and looking to have fun. or someone whose quiet, reserved and basically blends in with the crowd instead of leading.

get a few beer into ya and the problem will be solved

 

[~attrACTION~]

I don't know the answer to the question, but I've noticed the same phenomena occur.

I think a part of is something we read about in psychology class: the person who talks the most in a group naturally becomes the leader of the group. But then again, the person who listens the best can achieve the most power because they will have the best understanding of the group dynamics...although that is only if they choose to act upon it.

Another thing is that, I personally find very shy/quiet people to be scary. It's almost like they feel they are too good to talk to you, and when you have someone shy/quiet in a group it is a little awkward so you try and avoid them. I used to be the shy/quiet one a long time ago, and the reason I no longer am is because:

Haven't you heard the saying, be careful of the quiet ones? (or something like that) ...think of murderers, pedophiles, and other psychos...they're usually not loud and obnoxious, but very quiet, to themselves, and very creepy.

 

[ChrizZ]

Yeah, but on the other hand I know a lot of people that are quiet and still get girls.

 

[Mental]

loud, Obnoxious= fun, has balls and doesn't care what anyone thinks.
quiet= boring, unconfident, always has to think about what they were going to say.

think about it. if you were a girl. who would you want to date. someone loud and looking to have fun. or someone whose quiet, reserved and basically blends in with the crowd instead of leading.

get a few beer into ya and the problem will be solved

Ah, but then there's people who think:

Loud and obnoxious (attention ***** who always has to be the center of attention). I know plenty of people who are outgoing, but they're always having to be the center of attention, which is a big weakness.

quiet (shy, but perhaps contemplative.)

Sometimes its good to know when to be the quiet person, and when to be the life of the party. I'm an entertainer. But I'm not always "on" when I'm not performing. Sometimes I am, sometimes I'm not.

Past working towards being seen as more fun, you can't always drive yourself insane by wondering if people will like you. Or will find you attractive. Sometimes they won't. Don't think for a second you have to become a full blown jerk all the time (being a great person with a sense of humor can be good, so long as you're not "dull" all the time). Just be interesting and non creepy.