Number of Sexual partners

[Clooney4life]

As I'm about to turn 40 it seems to be difficult to find a woman who hasn't had allot of sexual partners. What do you guys consider a tipping point that would disqualify her as low quality and easy?

 

[TheCWord]

Would be hypocritical to judge a woman for her number of sexual partners if you too have accumulated your fair share of bangs.

Edit: That said, if it's clear she goes home with a different guy every night, she's a slut and is disqualified as GF material. If a woman is 30 and has had 20-30 sexual partners, I don't consider that unreasonable - it tells me she probably hasn't been in an LTR for any period of time so I'll keep that in mind when evaluating her, though.

 

[Big Nuts]

Would be hypocritical to judge a woman for her number of sexual partners if you too have accumulated your fair share of bangs.

Wow...was that just said in the manosphere??? Really???

Men have to work their asses off for a bang, an average chick can bang 3 guys a day.

Notch counts between the sexes are not morally equivalent.

 

[Clooney4life]

Not sure if I just don't have my head in the right place... But I don't want the girl that everyone has passed around even if she is hot.... They seem to loose value for me when they see sex as just getting off or a way to be validated that they are wanted and desired....

 

[Stagger Lee]

Would be hypocritical to judge a woman for her number of sexual partners if you too have accumulated your fair share of bangs.

It's not hypocritical in the least. Women are not men. Speaking for myself and probably a lot of guys if they thought about it, it's because of women I've had several sexual partners. In other words, no quality woman wants a relationship, but a lot of them want a ONS. Women have the choice not men.

 

[nismo-4]

Women have the choice not men.

Finally! Someone tells the truth!

Women get offers thrown at them every day. Most men don't.

It's the men that gotta jump through hoops and mazes for a touch of a female. They rarely reject women. Even if they do, women have so many options they won't care. They have sex options, emotional tampon options, text buddy options, I could go on and on.

If men had the option of choosing who to bang, we'd be exercising the hell out of it. The only thing men can really do is put a bid in. It's no different than applying for a job and attending an interview.

 

[MaddXMan]

Don't ask don't tell.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

If a woman is 30 and has had 20-30 sexual partners, I don't consider that unreasonable - it tells me she probably hasn't been in an LTR for any period of time so I'll keep that in mind when evaluating her, though.

To each their own, but don't make the mistake of thinking if a woman has a high # of partners that it means she hasn't been in a LTR for any period of time. Most slvts have beta bf's, who they cheat on regularly behind their backs.

The high # of sexual partners should be a glaring red flag that jumps out at you right off the bat when evaluating any woman.

The correlation I'm trying to draw is that most women who have had a high # of sexual partners (30 is a lot IMO), are not FIT to be in a LTR due to their inability to be loyal.

A woman's sexual past means nothing to me. Why do you care?

You know I respect you Espi, but I def disagree with you completely here.

A woman's sexual past should mean EVERYTHING to you, because its a clear indicator into who she is as a person & who she will be in the future.

Slvts aren't simply called slvts because they ride the kawk carousel. They're called slvts because they lack integrity, loyalty, empathy and a host of other traits that a suitable LTR woman possesses.

Its a mistake not to care, when your sexual health & resources are at risk if you decide to send time with her outside of the bedroom.

Now if you are simply coming from the angle of banging her & dropping her, then I agree with what your saying. Treat a slvt, for what she is and all is well. However the discussion swayed to evaluating the girl etc.

In those cases her sexual past is crucial information.

If you ask outright how many guys she's fvucked, do you think you'll KNOW for SURE that she's being honest?

Def agree with you here 100%. Most women completely lie to fit the image they are trying to portray. Heard a girl on a radio show mention how she has a system in place that she uses when this discussion comes up....lol







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[LorenzoVonM]

If a woman is provider hunting you are never gonna find out about some of the depraved sh*t she has done in her life. For exactly the reason you see here. She will be judged and she knows that. Its why women don't embrace their full sl*tiness in the first place (except on Sl*toween when its totally accepted). Take away the stigmas and a lot of these so called "good" girls would be riding a lot more c*ck then you think.

So you get in a LTR or even get married then find out after the fact. You gonna dump or divorce her?

 

[BeDJ]

This thread makes me die inside. A lot of legit posters with great advice, but I was too dumb to understand.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=146064

A woman will never flat out tell you an answer. Through her behavior and stories over time, you can get a decent number range. As MaddXMan said - Don't ask, don't tell.

One of them was a ONS. I just imagine ONS's I've been with and I can't imagine her one of them. I know its unfair

I know I shouldn't have asked, but isn't knowing the truth right even though it may hurt?

Latinoman-
I'm 25, she's 21. The relationship is strong, everything is split in half even though I eat, $hit and drink more than her. We are living together. I don't get if its a sexual or nonsexual relationship, we just have sex almost everyday. I never brought up with issue with her.

Francisco,
Her best friend found out that I slept with someone and told my girlfriend (##&%^@*&#). My girlfriend and her met before,but she never thought of it. Then one night we got drunk and she told me that her best friend talked to her. I said it was true and then we talked about it and had sex afterwards.

I asked because this is the first girl I have been in a serious relationship with and given my love to.

:crackup::crackup::crackup:

 

[( . )( . )]

Statistics show she becomes the slogged out butthext, buttocked, bernankified, soulless (courtesy gbfm) thing you and I know as "modern woman" around her 5th c@ck. At least that's when her inability to long term pair bond rises by 70%. Thus logic dictates when sluttitude begins for her, pump and dump should commence for you.

Fear not all the naysayers who say "you'll never know her true numbers anyway"(which I used to be one of btw). That may be true to an extent but a textbook modern woman has an air and a certain vibe that her more chaste sisters do not yet have. You'll soon pick up on it.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Clooney,
Though we all have non sequiters,in general I don't worry about the number of partners they have had,can you really believe a Women anyway?No she will normally just tell you what she thinks is acceptable to you....I have known Friends marry casual Escort Girls,and have excellent marriages,such Girls have seen every imaginable colour,shape and size,variety has lost its appeal,they crave stability...at 40 you have been round the block a few times yourself,do you really want an inexperienced Women?....If as can be the case you are looking for someone to rear Children with the situation does change,and their genetic value,their spending habits and common values and interests are more important than the number of notches on their bedhead!

 

[Nutz]

A women's "number" is absolutely critical information one needs to know for deciding whether or not she's worth investing in for a serious relationship. Women with lots of partners are just terrible choices to get serious with. And this isn't my opinion either:

http://socialpathology.blogspot.com/2010/09/sexual-partner-divorce-risk.html

A soon as a woman has had more than one partner her long term marital stability risk drops to near 50%.

 

[C-quenced]

I could care less about a womans past UNLESS I was trying to wife her up. I have ALWAYS and naturally been this way even before I had my first several years back. 8 different women later and I still feel the same. I know my views on this are never going to change (regardless of my own count) and I came to wholeheartedly accept that.

The true and ONLY hypocrites are those buying into erronoeous philosophies and rejecting what comes naturally and instinctively to them while expecting all other males to do the same. Shame on you.

 

[Jules_Winfield]

The sluttier she is, the worse of a partner she will be.

Your best bet is to go as young as possible, to reduce the years riding the carousel. Aside from that, make sure to....

• Trust your gut.
• Don't ask her about her "count".
• Have fun and don't try hard for a relationship.

Over the dating period, you will get indicators of sluttiness. Just keep your eyes out for them and judge based on such indicators.

All this is true. When it comes to their numbers...

- Don't be surprised if information slips out when they're drinking.
- You will never get an accurate number, unless she's still in single digits and feels comfortable about it.
- Women will not know what to casually tell you and what to keep to themselves, because they don't think like us.

My "tipping point" depends on what she tells me about her past. If a guy slept with her faster or she lies about her sexual past, I'm done.

 

[typical]

That may be true to an extent but a textbook modern woman has an air and a certain vibe that her more chaste sisters do not yet have. You'll soon pick up on it.

Can you elaborate on this here please, I know this is going off on a tangent but I would like this further explained just so I have more information etc.

Personally I don't care how many guys she's been with, and this isn't because I have a high number myself its mainly due to the fact that I know that guys have ****ed her before me and other guys will **** her after me.

But her number count does alter which tier I place her at, the lower the number the more likely she will become my gf, the higher the less likely she will become my gf and I'll just rotate her as another plate. I guess its just natural every man wants a a woman that hasn't had a tonne of c0ck, which in this modern world is very hard to find.

 

[Big Nuts]

High number simply means you get to do dirtier stuff to her.

 

[Colossus]

Not sure if I just don't have my head in the right place... But I don't want the girl that everyone has passed around even if she is hot.... They seem to loose value for me when they see sex as just getting off or a way to be validated that they are wanted and desired....

That's because they DO!!! You are a man and this is a natural reaction to slvtty behavior. There is no merit in slvts. I dont care what anyone says. Women with a lot of sexual partners have a demonstrated impairment in their ability to bond to a man. Plus, how great do you feel putting your d!ck inside a hole where dozens of other men have jizzed???

I think this is one of those things in life where there is an acceptable double standard. It's true that if you have had 30,40,50 sexual partners you cant really judge her from a moral perspective, BUT----you still have ability to chose a more chaste woman. That is what is appealing to our male natures, and always will be.

Put it this way: I've had a fair amount of partners for the average guy, so I dont pass moral judgement on slvts. However, that doesnt mean I have to be with one!! There is a diminishing of feminine value that occurs---or dilution may be a better word---with an increasing number of c0cks. You want her to adore you. You want her to absolutely love your c0ck and crave your DNA inside her. You SHOULD be special to her because she hasnt had that many before you!! It is biologically safer, she will bond better to you and you will have better frame. This is just the way men and women are wired.

Stop making excuses and pardons for slvts because there is such a preponderance of them. Does she have to be a pristine virgin? No, but the fewer the better. She will be a purer female.

 

[LorenzoVonM]

You are a man and this is a natural reaction to slvtty behavior. There is no merit in slvts. I dont care what anyone says. Women with a lot of sexual partners have a demonstrated impairment in their ability to bond to a man. Plus, how great do you feel putting your d!ck inside a hole where dozens of other men have jizzed???

Far from a natural reaction. More like a conditioned response which is why guys have different beliefs about it. What is natural is that biologically, humans are not meant to long-term pair bond but still people try to fit a square peg into a round hole. If you smash on it enough a few will end up fitting.

I don't care what you think about "slvts" but thoughts about them surely isn't something printed in our DNA.

 

[LorenzoVonM]

Sorry I meant a conditioned belief. We are blank slates when we are born and from there we form beliefs based on teachings from parents, media, environment, etc.

Of course you agree, that's your ingrained belief. Doesn't mean its true, doesn't even mean my belief is true. Its just a belief.

When you say "share" a girl it seems you're talking about mate-guarding which has some biological relevance based on caveman days.

When you talk about "wife" and "marriage", that is just a social invention that didn't even exist until humans made it up. Then they attached a bunch of rules to it.

I don't expect to change any minds on this, so I'll just leave it at that and agree to disagree.