"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm good at getting to this part and I know that it's not a numbers game, but when I call I always have to explain myself and sometimes the girl doesn't remember me.

I'm just wondering if there's a more interesting way to make her remember you rather than saying "I'm that dude from that place last week".
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Thanks man, I figured that was the case, but does this mean that speed pickups don't work? I mean If you're in a club which was the case, a 3 minute conversation is the usual followed by a close. How do you go about calling 3-7 days later when all the factors such as her giving out numbers to 10 guys, got drunk or under lots of stress can make her forget.
 

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When you meet her make sure to slip in an inside joke you can both remember later. Or even better, give her a nickname.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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HeyPachuco!

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Desirable said:
Thanks man, I figured that was the case, but does this mean that speed pickups don't work? I mean If you're in a club which was the case, a 3 minute conversation is the usual followed by a close. How do you go about calling 3-7 days later when all the factors such as her giving out numbers to 10 guys, got drunk or under lots of stress can make her forget.
Apparently "Bouncing" with you're target around the club or to another venue helps building (rapport/ comfort) for a Day 2, because in her "mind" the time you spent seems longer than it was. Bouncing will be hard if the girl is with less than a 2 -set. You shouldn't be number closing under atleast 20-25 minutes with you're target. That doesn't mean stand there and talk her down for a solid 20-25, go about, talk to other girls, or bounce her around, seclude her or any potential external ****blocks (friend/s) or/and then come back and close her.
 

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I'm not a fan of calling as I usually tend to give chicks my # for the sake of giving them the opportunity to come along into my life. She always remembers me because she'll remember the opportunity she was just given.

All I ever do is just text chicks to come along in whatever I'm doing. If it's not that then there is no real contact unless she contacts me and I always consider that as an invitation for sex.

If were not face to face there is no need for communication. No chick has ever forgotten me since haha and I tend to bump into women that I don't even REMEMBER.

On a more relevant note...Bringing up inside jokes you guys had when you first met and screening them hard, if she feels like she had to actually invest to win you over she won't forget.
 
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