Number closed on two girls at same party, when is best to text ?

[Lover_boy]

So last night I number closed on two girls that were giving me some pretty decent high interests. One more than the other.

One of the girls I met, (girl #1) was fully engaged in our conversation and gave me her number without hesitation. She was however with a date and dancing with him throughout the night. I was teasing her if that was her man to whom she said “no he’s just my date”.

The other chic (girl #2), was giving me higher interests and even teased on kissing me. When I texted her my name, she ended up texting me later that night to which we flirted a bit back and forth and then said goodnight to each other.

A lot of dating coaches say to text or reach out 3 or 4 days after number closing but what would be the best approach after creating some rapport at a party the night before ? Considering that emotions were high but also people are drunk

Also, I do have to mention that I was also at the party with a date (non-exclusive plate) to which she was dancing on me etc. (no kissing though)

 

[logicallefty]

The waiting 3-4 days thing uses to be the right answer but anymore a lot women know about it and may take notice if you do it that way. If I were single today I would probably wait until 7 or 8 PM the next evening after I met them. If they are really interested in you they will be thinking about you all day. So I think waiting until the next evening will be long enough. There’s probably no right answer to this anymore, other than don’t text her the same night you met her unless she text you first.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

“no he’s just my date”.

Translation: He´s just tonight´s c0ck. Its over for NoHeJustMyDateCels

You should go with @logicallefty on this one. The other option is to not overthink it and just text them whenever the f0ck you want.

 

[HaleyBaron]

It was a halloween party, wasn't it. Next. You lost your chance. You should have struck that night. The alcohol and looseness of the party is gone. They'll glaze over your text at best.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

I wouldn't recommend that after getting the number. I suggest 2 to 3 days after the first date but not after getting the number.

I would text 1 day after tops or even the next day. You want to continue the momentum of the in-person interaction. Girls are very "in the moment" types of beings. Letting more than 2 days pass might cause the momentum and excitement to go extinct. I would even suggest securing that 1st date with them almost right away. Then once secured don't text until the day before or the day of to confirm.


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[Modern Man Advice]

It was a halloween party, wasn't it. Next. You lost your chance. You should have struck that night. The alcohol and looseness of the party is gone. They'll glaze over your text at best.

This. Harley has a strong point. Again, women are in-the-moment creatures. And yes, if this was a Halloween party, their mindset is go-all-out-and-have-a-blast-tomorrow-I'll-be-back-to-normal-like-nothing-happened.

But don't feel bad if this is the case. This literally just happened to me, I was in Portland with some friends. There was this super cute Spanish girl that we were flirting back and forth but unfortunately, I had been going out with one of the girls there and ended up straightening things up with that girl outside the bar, in the meantime, the other girl noticed that and you snooze you lose.

I tried to hit that girl up later and nope. So yeah in these situations, strike the iron while it is hot.


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