I was having a good chat with a girl about 10 messages. I decided to go for the number close and asked if she had a number I could reach her at that would be easier. She responded by saying "maybe lol" So how should I go about responding to this?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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Don't ask for the number next time. You want to set up to meet instead, just a casual hangout; she will tell you her number.
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Make fun of her for being so excited that she dropped her phone into the toilet when you asked her that.
Which site are you on? Online game isn't totally transferable between sites, they all have different feels. I use OKC and POF; POF is for quantity, OKC for quality, by my experiences (I've only met one girl in person from OKC, but she's awesome and I'm thinking of locking her down)
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
These lines have all worked for me can't take credit for them got them from Cajun. If you and a girl are messaging back and forth and you want to # close use "I hate playing email tag, why don't you give me your number so we can talk like normal people."
Another line you could use if shes online and you guys are messaging back and forth is "****, sorry im doing like 10 things at once here, why don't you give me your number and I'll call you in like...5 minutes?"
If she says maybe like she did to you I would use this line "Yeah you should totally play hard to get. Well im going to go grab something to eat now, when you're ready to give me your number let me know and we can talk like normal people...dork."
Another line you could use if shes online and you guys are messaging back and forth is "****, sorry im doing like 10 things at once here, why don't you give me your number and I'll call you in like...5 minutes?"
If she says maybe like she did to you I would use this line "Yeah you should totally play hard to get. Well im going to go grab something to eat now, when you're ready to give me your number let me know and we can talk like normal people...dork."
Dust 2 Dust
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She sounds like your typical POF AW just using men for an ego boost. I'd ditch her and never contact her again.
10 messages is way too long to communicate with a female online. If you're not able to number close a woman after 2-3 messages then you're not doing it right.
10 messages is way too long to communicate with a female online. If you're not able to number close a woman after 2-3 messages then you're not doing it right.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.