I was having a good chat with a girl about 10 messages. I decided to go for the number close and asked if she had a number I could reach her at that would be easier. She responded by saying "maybe lol" So how should I go about responding to this?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Don't ask for the number next time. You want to set up to meet instead, just a casual hangout; she will tell you her number.
EvilAgenda
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Make fun of her for being so excited that she dropped her phone into the toilet when you asked her that.
Which site are you on? Online game isn't totally transferable between sites, they all have different feels. I use OKC and POF; POF is for quantity, OKC for quality, by my experiences (I've only met one girl in person from OKC, but she's awesome and I'm thinking of locking her down)
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
These lines have all worked for me can't take credit for them got them from Cajun. If you and a girl are messaging back and forth and you want to # close use "I hate playing email tag, why don't you give me your number so we can talk like normal people."
Another line you could use if shes online and you guys are messaging back and forth is "****, sorry im doing like 10 things at once here, why don't you give me your number and I'll call you in like...5 minutes?"
If she says maybe like she did to you I would use this line "Yeah you should totally play hard to get. Well im going to go grab something to eat now, when you're ready to give me your number let me know and we can talk like normal people...dork."
Another line you could use if shes online and you guys are messaging back and forth is "****, sorry im doing like 10 things at once here, why don't you give me your number and I'll call you in like...5 minutes?"
If she says maybe like she did to you I would use this line "Yeah you should totally play hard to get. Well im going to go grab something to eat now, when you're ready to give me your number let me know and we can talk like normal people...dork."
Dust 2 Dust
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She sounds like your typical POF AW just using men for an ego boost. I'd ditch her and never contact her again.
10 messages is way too long to communicate with a female online. If you're not able to number close a woman after 2-3 messages then you're not doing it right.
10 messages is way too long to communicate with a female online. If you're not able to number close a woman after 2-3 messages then you're not doing it right.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.