Leah
Don Juan
Saw this guy in class, waited for him after and offered him a ride home whoch he accepted. Had chit chat, asked myself out with him and he said it'd be awkward as there's a girl there he's kind-of seeing. NEXT!
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
This is hilarious. A chick using the DJ terms. :crackup:Originally posted by Leah
I'll try my luck tomorrow casually, and hope he doesn't LJBF me!
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Yeah these chicks have caught on to all that BS ....Originally posted by The_Shezzler
Personally i think the whole philosophy around when to call/ when not to call as gone to a level of complete nonsense.
My field tested methods (that work - because the initial meeting built rapport and made a connection) are to call the girl WHENEVER YOU feel like it.
Is she/he really gonna lose sleep about whether or not you call her/him?:
1. The day after you met?
2. 2-3 days later?
3. 1 week later?
No way, if you build the connection when you first meet her/him, that initial approach will justify calling her/him anytime you wish (within reason) thus eliminating the so called 'Phone Rules' from seduction history.