"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Nuclear War

phil2015

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Hi fellas

Quick write up on my current relationship.....

Been seeing a girl for around 3 months now, and previously ready a lot of dating material from online, is corey wayne bought his book etc

My situation is this, after dating a HB 8 and applying the principles I'd learned, the girl in dating told me she loved me after 5 weeks, said we shohld move in together after 7 and I'm the 10th week said we should get married and have children.

She brought all of these up first of her own accord

Everything going well etc, lots of sex constantly ......

However tonight she went absolutely nuclear on me after I had arranged meet my sister/bro in law for drinks

Part of me thinks I must have been doing something right for her to initially chase me and suggest all those things. However I'm wondering if the fact I've agreed with them has become anti-challenge and made it too easy.....

And thoughts guys?

Regards Phil, who is about to spin more plates
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

marmel75

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Hi fellas

Quick write up on my current relationship.....

Been seeing a girl for around 3 months now, and previously ready a lot of dating material from online, is corey wayne bought his book etc

My situation is this, after dating a HB 8 and applying the principles I'd learned, the girl in dating told me she loved me after 5 weeks, said we shohld move in together after 7 and I'm the 10th week said we should get married and have children.

She brought all of these up first of her own accord

Everything going well etc, lots of sex constantly ......

However tonight she went absolutely nuclear on me after I had arranged meet my sister/bro in law for drinks

Part of me thinks I must have been doing something right for her to initially chase me and suggest all those things. However I'm wondering if the fact I've agreed with them has become anti-challenge and made it too easy.....

And thoughts guys?

Regards Phil, who is about to spin more plates
Why the hell would you agree to all of those? You barely know the woman. I think she realizes that you must be desperate for her because no man cages himself that easily.
 

marmel75

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Fair play

Possible outcome?
Unsure...I've never been in this situation...I do know that sometimes when things burn fast and bright they flame out quickly, but that doesn't mean it will...

Why is this woman so desperate to get married and have kids?
How does this benefit you?
Does she see you as someone she can sucker into 18 years of child support payments?
Could this chick be BPD and that is the first time she hasn't been on her "good behavior"?

There are a whole host of questions you need to be asking.
 

Yewki

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My situation is this, after dating a HB 8 and applying the principles I'd learned, the girl in dating told me she loved me after 5 weeks, said we shohld move in together after 7 and I'm the 10th week said we should get married and have children.

She brought all of these up first of her own accord
Any girl who wants to get married, move in, and have children within 2.5 months of meeting you... is unstable and cannot be trusted for a LTR

She can never be more than a f*ck buddy now

Sorry for your loss mate
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Desdinova

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My situation is this, after dating a HB 8 and applying the principles I'd learned, the girl in dating told me she loved me after 5 weeks, said we shohld move in together after 7 and I'm the 10th week said we should get married and have children.
a) How old is she?
b) How long have you known her?

If she's anywhere over 23 and you've only known her for 10 weeks, then you'd better fvcking run.
 

Billtx49

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Sounds like love bombing and possible desperation on her part to me. Bottom line, she's trying to move the relationship in fast forward mode on her own terms.
 

Julian

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definitely borderline. welcome to the first episode. next she will act all lovey to u to reel u back in.

what do u mean by nuclear, exactly?
 
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