"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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dannyegg4575

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ok, i met this girl through a coworker 3 months ago. It was awesome. we started seeing each other a lot and well, there were happy endings.

Anyway, i started seeing another friend of the coworker. We hit it off pretty well as well and the next thing you know, we again have happy ending... she moved in with me. Anyway, now, here's the problem.

The first girl asked my coworker and myself to have dinner tonight and invite her friend too. ehm...

what to do? lol... i'm screwed... if i come back tomorrow without a penis, call the cops...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Which of these coworkers is the girl that you've been pining over?

I think you've got some serious issues and you need to get over them before you can have a healthy relationship with women. Right now it appears you jump in too deep.

If you are serious about your personal growth and having real succes with women, you need to do some soul searching and find out why it is that you are acting this way.

Or you can continue on this path, have multiple unhealthy relationships and realize later in life that you threw away some great women because you weren't ready. Its your choice.
 

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macavoy, I just didn't end it with the first one properly...

I don't think i will ever invest so serious with another woman until i know for sure she's the right one for me. I intend to invest my time on a girl until I know she's the one. otherwise, i will not attach any emotion into her.

I did that with my ex and i got burned. I did that with my ex-wife and I got burned. I swear never to do it again irregardless of what anyone here may think of me.

nothing much happened today, I was just really awkward being there.

anyway, onwards and upwards.
 

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dannyegg4575 said:
macavoy, I just didn't end it with the first one properly...

I don't think i will ever invest so serious with another woman until i know for sure she's the right one for me. I intend to invest my time on a girl until I know she's the one. otherwise, i will not attach any emotion into her.

I did that with my ex and i got burned. I did that with my ex-wife and I got burned. I swear never to do it again irregardless of what anyone here may think of me.

nothing much happened today, I was just really awkward being there.

anyway, onwards and upwards.
irregardless is not a word.
 

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actually it is, just rarely used.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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dannyegg4575 said:
Anyway, i started seeing another friend of the coworker. We hit it off pretty well as well and the next thing you know, we again have happy ending... she moved in with me.
:nervous: :down:
 

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Your talking about multiple ex's and multiple coworkers and nobody can keep track of heads or tails. Can you give them fake names.
 

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dannyegg4575 said:
actually it is, just rarely used.
It's starting to become accepted, but it's still incorrect. It's just that people insist on using it for some reason....dude it's a fvcking double negative!
 

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Sorry for the confusion. It was last minute where I had to go for dinner and needed a response asap.

ok, the story goes something like this. I met my coworker at this new job i'm at. her name is Joan.(names are fake btw) Joan and I hung out once in awhile and she introduced me to one of her friends, Maggie (who's not a coworker). So, I hooked up with Maggie and things went great. But then I realize, she isn't the right one for me. I didn't breakup with her properly. I just, disappeared. I know, it's wrong...

Anyway, later, Joan introduced me to Nancy (who's also not a coworker). We hung out, had lots of fun and she moved in. We were having a blast but Nancy knew about Maggie and me. The situation got awkward when Maggie invited all three of us to her house for dinner. So, yeah, I hope that cleared things up a little.

The whole time, Nancy never said a word. What's weird is, she was pretty cool until two days ago before we went for dinner. Now she's all quiet and sh>t...

keeping them both would've made a bigger mess dude. At least now i can say things didn't work out between Maggie and me.

it's ok guys. thanks for helping anyway. The drama is over and I'll move on.

I'm going to keep looking until I find the right woman. Until then, I'm just going to keep having fun.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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