"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Now I love my frend. how to ask for love?

Bjerte

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I am come back to DJforums to say hello but with problem also.

I have good friend who is Yole and she come out with me all times to go look at movie's and art hallways and theter. It is like we date already but no kiss or sex and I donot know if she have love for me also like I have love for her.

I say how to make her into Bjerte's girlfriend? I ask her out but she think it is for friendship but if I go to kiss and she not love Bjerte then us friendship must die. I donot want.

I am the coward! :(

How to ask for her love and keep her to be friend if she say no?

I want sex with her also. hahahaha!
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Desdinova

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Hello again, Bjerte!

I ask her out but she think it is for friendship
It sounds as if you're in the "friendship zone" with her. In other words, she doesn't find you sexually appealing. There is an extremely small chance that you can turn a friendship into a relationship. It's not worth the hassle.

You're best off to find a new woman.

Also, have you read the DJ Bible yet?
 

Bjerte

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I try to read djbible but for Bjerte it is hard my reading long English is not good.

I am sad if I am in friendchip zone because I want love. I am try to be nice man but this is why?

Can this change if I say I want sex?
 

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both of you should get really drunk and then go for the kiss. If she pushes you away then you can blame it on the alcohol
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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squirrels

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Tell her to squeeze your balls until you pass out. :crackup:

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Seriously, though, if you want to be her boyfriend, BEHAVE like her boyfriend. Touch her when you speak to her. Put your arm around her. When you look at her, look her in the eyes and hold the gaze knowingly. Smile. Speak to her in your romantic voice. Tease her.

Treat her like your girlfriend instead of like a friend, and see how she responds.
 

penkitten

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Originally posted by Skel
both of you should get really drunk and then go for the kiss. If she pushes you away then you can blame it on the alcohol

hahaha it always works huh
 

Fenderules

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Originally posted by squirrels
Tell her to squeeze your balls until you pass out. :crackup:





haha you crack me up!



welcome back Bjerte! i missed your posts. we need more like you.

your problem is simply right in front of you.....

"I am Coward"


had you not been a coward you would have kissed her already and would have known.




so the next time your on a date, try holding hands. Thats not as strong as a kiss so if she rejects you right then and there, you know she is not interested. If she holds hands, then you know!
 

Rollo Tomassi

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How do you 'ask' for love?

On your hands and knees, groveling like a starving beggar wondering when the next crumb of her attention will indiscriminately fall from her table to the floor where you'll happily mouth the filthy ground to get to it before the other dogs do.





You NEVER ask for love. It's given or it isn't, now go grow a spine and 2 testicles.
 

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Go for drinks and isolate her somewhere.

Slowly amp up the seduction.

Kino, triangular gazing, smiling, and talk about something that you and her are passionate about.

GET HORNY.

And then convey that seductive vibe to her.

Touch her arm. Then brush the side of her face.

You don't lay the bomb on her, you HEAT HER UP slowly but surely so that she slowly but surely sees YOU in a sexual light.

She starts getting horny for YOU and is then wanting you to make that first kiss.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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DJ Hawtness

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It's obvious that you've had some great conversations with her. The best thing you can do is go for some nice, smooth, kino. Works everytime bro. :woo:
 
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