"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Nothing else going for me but this HB from previous?

Tomo

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Bear with me guys. She turned me down before break and that was the last chick in a string of late that made me reassess myself. I realised I may have all the confidence in the world but elsewhere, I was lacking. So over the holidays, I've really hit the gym, bulked up, increased my drive in things and have really taken a good step forward. The skin is now clearing up nicely. Add a fashion overhaul and I'm starting to turn eyes around woman that I never thought of.

Yet I've emptied all my plates as a starting new leaf. More so because I am so busy now that I don't have the time nor have I had any opportunities to go out and meet new people. I don't mind, I've got some goals I want to set before years end.

Now comes the hard part is that this girl from above I've still kept in touch with. Yep, she's the one that I got cosy with at a party etc. I think she has noticed the change in me because her behaviour to me has definately changed since we got back. This includes:
-Curling up to me when I put my arm around her and telling me to keep her warm
-In a group setting, we'll ignore everyone else and be carrying on our own thing
-First day back, she went all doe eyed on me and that made me very uncomfortable

Yeah fair enough, any self respecting DJ would probably next and find an easy lay. Others will point out my oneitis that has developed. Yet I just cannot stop myself and I don't know why. Isn't another DJ saying is to be confident enough to go for what you want? From what I know of her, she is possibly one of those quality girls so maybe thats why I'm willing to take a punt. Of current her situation has also changed and from her friends (who are gunning for me), her love life is non-existent besides me. We are also going together to a Ball soon (with the larger group of friends of course).

So my question to all you DJ's who I say thanks for reading this rant I guess I just needed to get out, What should I be doing? Am I wrong to allow this oneitis to develop? Should I be being more aggressive? I'm hesitant to ask her out again as obviously I was turned down a few times but I've bounced back each time funny and ****y. I guess I've done nothing because I feel the Ball night coming up will be the defining moment in this case between her and me. She has been talking to me about it too and how she is looking forward to it and for me to have to wait to see what she will be wearing that night.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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TheException

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Tomo said:
Bear with me guys. She turned me down before break and that was the last chick in a string of late that made me reassess myself. I realised I may have all the confidence in the world but elsewhere, I was lacking. So over the holidays, I've really hit the gym, bulked up, increased my drive in things and have really taken a good step forward. The skin is now clearing up nicely. Add a fashion overhaul and I'm starting to turn eyes around woman that I never thought of.
Good work.
Yet I've emptied all my plates as a starting new leaf. More so because I am so busy now that I don't have the time nor have I had any opportunities to go out and meet new people. I don't mind, I've got some goals I want to set before years end.
Dont understand the thought process here.

Turning a new leaf? Seems completely unnecessary to rid yourself of easy pu$$y. Especially since you claim you dont have time to meet new people.
Now comes the hard part is that this girl from above I've still kept in touch with. Yep, she's the one that I got cosy with at a party etc. I think she has noticed the change in me because her behaviour to me has definately changed since we got back. This includes:
-Curling up to me when I put my arm around her and telling me to keep her warm
-In a group setting, we'll ignore everyone else and be carrying on our own thing
-First day back, she went all doe eyed on me and that made me very uncomfortable
If she's previously rejected you......it takes a lot to turn things around and get her to view you in a different light.

To me.....sounds like she is keeping you in orbit(as an orbiter).
Am I wrong to allow this oneitis to develop?
Yes. Oneitis is NEVER good. Not even good in a LTR.
Should I be being more aggressive? I'm hesitant to ask her out again as obviously I was turned down a few times but I've bounced back each time funny and ****y.
These are opposing viewpoints. You cant be "aggressive" by being "hesitant and afraid". I would do nothing. If she changes her tune about you........you WILL KNOW.
 

marmel75

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If you want it, go get it. Simple as that. Be a man. Have some Testosterone.
 
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