"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So my friend is dating a crazy (ie. phone calls all the time, crazy low self-esteem, etc). I recognize the characteristics from the time I dated a bi-polar when I had lower confidence.

How do I bring the dude to his sense or do I watch him crash a burn?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If he's open to information give him a link to BPDfamily.org.

Then he can at least get some information on the borderline he's dealing with.

And don't do anymore than that.

He'll have to crash and burn hard before he'll even consider getting rid of her.
 

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Thanks. Lets hope it does not come down to that and he will figure it out on his own.
 

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I kept a eye out but he learned on his own.

Always keep a eye out for your bro's when this happens.
 
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