"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Not wanting to go out any more

Murk

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I used to be a party animal from 18 years old to early this year (30). Now I couldn’t think of anything worse than going out spending money with boring people, doing coke maybe, coming home drunk with memory loss and feeling hung over all day.

I went out on New Years to a rave, bumped into my ex (reason I joined this forum) and her (who I assume to be) weasel looking beta bf - that was quite fun. It took me 2 days to recover! To be fair I got home at 8am and took an assortment of drugs.

But this whole Xmas period I didn’t go out, I stayed home with my girl for some of it, chilled saw family. I have 0 need to go and get drunk outside. I’ve felt this way for about 6-8 months now.

Is it because I’ve been there and done it?Because I’m seeing a decent girl who looks after my needs? Because I’m now 30? Lots of my friends have kids/engaged now so maybe it’s that but I just love staying in my house and relaxing, cooking, hosting, drinking wine.

Am I turning into an old man?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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Yeah don’t listen to the guy above me, he doesn’t know what he’s talking about.


It’s age. Your hormones are just now starting to take a dip, so the way you feel in general has changed. Side effects? Maybe a little less energy for all that, but your priorities probably hanged too. Otherwise, you’d be much more adamant about cheating on your girl (knowing you based off your previous posting history, you’d probably have done it by now already) and it wouldn’t have phased you.

It’s not a bad thing either per se, doing that **** all the time will take a toll on your body. Besides, you don’t want to be the ‘old man’ in the club anyway lol
 

KindredSpiritzz

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lol wait til you hit 50. I have no interest in going out or drinking anymore and chasing women to far is to much effort.
I just stay at home and do my dating from my laptop now. You're on the downhill slide now, the next 20 yrs will go by fast so make them memorable
 

Murk

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lol wait til you hit 50. I have no interest in going out or drinking anymore and chasing women to far is to much effort.
I just stay at home and do my dating from my laptop now. You're on the downhill slide now, the next 20 yrs will go by fast so make them memorable
LOL! Don’t scare me like that!

Yeah my urge has gone, hangovers last longer, I have more responsibility in life to be successful.

My drive is still there and I constantly want sex though, with different women, I just can’t really be bothered to get it.

I saw a few girls I’ve banged over the years on Facebook, I thought about when we had sex, I can’t remember a thing, I can’t even fantasise about all the sex and women I’ve banged because I can’t remember, maybe it wasn’t that great. It feels good at the time then it disappears.

Also - don’t crucify me here - I really want a young girl. Aged 18-22 they are so fun. I find myself actively trawling OLD for a PYT.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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