Heres the background:
I met this girl when she was a junior in HS and I was a freshman, she used to hang out with my sister but after my sis graduated they didnt really keep in touch.
when I was a junior I saw her at school one day and I was outside and she offered to give me a ride home, I asked for her number and she gave it to me (i lost it)
Some months ago I was at work (mall) and I saw her, and we started talking and yiddyyiddyyada and got her number again.
Called her to invite her to a party and she refused....(cant remember the excuse). So I say to myself, fine, shes not interested, and let it go.
About a week later I get a TXT msg from her "Hey, what are you up to?" then we texted back and forth and talked and then she didnt reply anymore so I just nexted her.
Now 2 weeks ago I met her at college again, we talked and I invited her to another party which as on a saturday and she told me she couldnt, but thats he was going to a party that friday and if I wanted to go with her. So we go and the party was kinda whack but we danced anyway.
We kept calling each other throughout this week and met for lunch thursday after class. which brings me to the point.
We were talking just chit-chat and then she asks out of nowhere "do you have a gf?" to which i reply "No, but would you like to be?"(C&F), she laughs and says "Im too old for you"(shes 21, im 18) and then she goes on, I'am 25 years old, of course I knew she wasn't so I bust her on it......and then she goes to say soemthing along the lines of "dating older women is the new trend now no?" and then she asks me why I dont have a gf and I ask her the same thing, to which she tells me that a year ago some guy hurt her or w/e. This convo really didnt lead anywhere but Im wondering if she really meant the "too old" thing.......personally I dont care if she was 50 but Im worried that she believes that It wouldnt work out because of age.
So after that we go walking around and go to the bookstore and we have 'estimulating' conversation etc, and then I saw that she was showing a lot of body language so I went for it, I tried to grab her hand as she tried to hug my arm but I didnt notice in time so I was reaching her hand and then she moves it away and says "not the hand, that reminds me of that *******" At this point I just gave up, we kept walking around talking but I wasnt showing any body language or anything.
We walk to our cars and I thank her for coming , she thanks me and kisses me in the cheek, I say bye and she adds "See you around?" to which I dont reply.(just wanted to eject)
I don't know if I should contact her again or wait and see if she contacts me first, she was sending mixed signals, and that bf thing was weird. (I held her hand at the party the week before)
I need advise on what to do and how to approach this situation.
I apologize for the long read
I met this girl when she was a junior in HS and I was a freshman, she used to hang out with my sister but after my sis graduated they didnt really keep in touch.
when I was a junior I saw her at school one day and I was outside and she offered to give me a ride home, I asked for her number and she gave it to me (i lost it)
Some months ago I was at work (mall) and I saw her, and we started talking and yiddyyiddyyada and got her number again.
Called her to invite her to a party and she refused....(cant remember the excuse). So I say to myself, fine, shes not interested, and let it go.
About a week later I get a TXT msg from her "Hey, what are you up to?" then we texted back and forth and talked and then she didnt reply anymore so I just nexted her.
Now 2 weeks ago I met her at college again, we talked and I invited her to another party which as on a saturday and she told me she couldnt, but thats he was going to a party that friday and if I wanted to go with her. So we go and the party was kinda whack but we danced anyway.
We kept calling each other throughout this week and met for lunch thursday after class. which brings me to the point.
We were talking just chit-chat and then she asks out of nowhere "do you have a gf?" to which i reply "No, but would you like to be?"(C&F), she laughs and says "Im too old for you"(shes 21, im 18) and then she goes on, I'am 25 years old, of course I knew she wasn't so I bust her on it......and then she goes to say soemthing along the lines of "dating older women is the new trend now no?" and then she asks me why I dont have a gf and I ask her the same thing, to which she tells me that a year ago some guy hurt her or w/e. This convo really didnt lead anywhere but Im wondering if she really meant the "too old" thing.......personally I dont care if she was 50 but Im worried that she believes that It wouldnt work out because of age.
So after that we go walking around and go to the bookstore and we have 'estimulating' conversation etc, and then I saw that she was showing a lot of body language so I went for it, I tried to grab her hand as she tried to hug my arm but I didnt notice in time so I was reaching her hand and then she moves it away and says "not the hand, that reminds me of that *******" At this point I just gave up, we kept walking around talking but I wasnt showing any body language or anything.
We walk to our cars and I thank her for coming , she thanks me and kisses me in the cheek, I say bye and she adds "See you around?" to which I dont reply.(just wanted to eject)
I don't know if I should contact her again or wait and see if she contacts me first, she was sending mixed signals, and that bf thing was weird. (I held her hand at the party the week before)
I need advise on what to do and how to approach this situation.
I apologize for the long read