She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You think that is going to make me feel like any less of a fraud by getting someone else to do my work?guru1000 said:For your first five clients, I will assist you in copywriting, and if I am unable to, I will hire a professional at my expense.
Now what is your excuse?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I can make that commitment.guru1000 said:My price is my life. Accordingly, I always follow through in business/personal/health-related pursuits. But, I could not ask the same from you.
The price must be costly enough that the fear of failing (or shall we say the fear of success!) is diminutive in comparison.
You mentioned earlier that you were "scared to death" in losing your two-month living expense emergency fund. Why not offer this as the price?
In concrete terms:
You will commit to a minimum of 20 days cold-calling, 200 calls per day--or--if you quit for any reason, you will donate your two-month emergency fund to SoSuave.com, as to know that such monies were actually donated.
Are you willing to make this commitment?
I have a friend from school with crippling ADD, the real variety that amounts to a learning disability. His writing and English skills are atrocious and he never graduated college. He is in sales and has to write website copy as a tangent to his main work. If he manages, so can you.:-) said:How do I write this florist's website when I cannot even write my own?
You are now conning yourself. Why the self-sabotage? As long as you treat people fairly and honestly in providing a quality service at reasonable prices, you are not "selling out.":-) said:This is the conflict of interest I have. God or Mammon. TO do this I will have to sell my soul. A far bigger price, no?
Yes. I've been studying copywriting. Articles, videos and an on-line course. I've also previously done an NLP practitioner course and have plenty of sales experience. I'm sure an experienced copywriter will tell you it's not something you will learn overnight though. It will take practice.dasein said:I have a friend from school with crippling ADD, the real variety that amounts to a learning disability. His writing and English skills are atrocious and he never graduated college. He is in sales and has to write website copy as a tangent to his main work. If he manages, so can you.
http://www.ehow.com/how_7254824_write-copy-small-business-website.html
http://www.homebusinesswiz.com/2006/11/how-to-write-copy-for-your-website-homepage.html
https://www.powerhomebiz.com/online-business/internet/write-effective-sales-copy-web.htm
http://www.ehow.com/how_4547393_write-good-copy-website.html
https://www.futuresimple.com/blog/how-to-write-web-copy-for-small-business/
Results from a one minute search. You can also buy books on writing copy and search engine optimization, the latter being very important to your mission, or just go to the old fashioned library and research there. If you can write, you can certainly write net copy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Plato and Socrates were quite intelligent, weren’t they?:-) said:What about the other part? THe conflict of interest. That copywriting is pure sophistry and in direct opposition to what I have been searching for. And that Plato and Socrates condemned sophists and poets because they dealt not in Truth but rhetoric and were purgers of the soul?
This is the conflict of interest I have. God or Mammon. TO do this I will have to sell my soul. A far bigger price, no?
guru1000 said:Eliminate promises, guarantees, or warranties from your vocabulary, thoughts, and intentions. Once you project specious ideas or ideas with specious intent, you will be walking a precarious path. Read my sig. Material difference between “you will” and “you can.” This may seem like semantics, but I assure you, experientially, it is inexplicable and imperative for your long-term success.
guru1000 said:One law that I always defer to in life, especially in business, is the law of reciprocity. Be fair and straight with people, and reap the enduring rewards of referrals and repeat business. I encourage you to adopt the same philosophy.
You are to quote a price for your services, because the goal is to promote through the Stages, capitalize your business as to grow exponentially, ultimately allowing you to help a myriad businesses.:-) said:Wouldn't it make more sense to approach companies offering my services for free just to build up a portfolio?
Yes.guru1000 said:Smile, are you ready to commit to the 20 day/200 call per day or donate to SoSuave.com price?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.