"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Im in a very boring college art class that started couple weeks ago.. At the beginning i saw this girl she seems pretty shy, and quiet and sits all the way in the front, i sit alll the way in the corner in the back... Last week i walk in to class i take my seat, then later she comes in and takes her seat and seems to notice me and looks at me (seemed like she liked what she saw, or didnt know such a cutie was in her class lol)

Then once again last thursday we exchange glances..... Then today i talk to my boy in the back , while giving a glance towards her checking her out, she looks at me again...

I noticed im the only guy she looks at, when i look at her.. I havent noticed her looking at anybody else (Its not a stare just seems our eyes end up finding each other

What do you guys think? Thanks
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

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I think you should've came up and said hi about 5 times now.

Then ask her for a walk after class, or something.

DUH!
 
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Well don't quite "ask" for a walk after class. Rather, if you have time accompany her to where shes going.

And after you know her name, if she comes in after you, call her over to where you're sitting.

You're in college now. So you're lucky, theres good looking friendly chix everywhere. What i do, is i'm just super friendly and I make lots of friends, and then with some of them I escalate. You can usually tell which.

So basically, be really friendly and don't worry about anything.

Rhino

PS. Ice Cold, whereabouts in TO are you?
 
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Originally posted by yankees13
But it seems there is some interest on her part also, correct?
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how in the h*ll are we supposed to know if she is interested? She's not in our class, she's in your class. Freakin ask her out and find out for yourself... or wait until the last day of class, when she is certain of your lack of bravery and get turned down for sure.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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^ First of all i wasnt asking you to be Nostradamus and make a prediction.. All i did was i described what happens between us in class, i would think some of you might have been in this/similar situation and know whats going on.
 
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Throw her a big smile. If she smiles back, or looks down, go say hi to her. Unless it's in the middle of class...if so, you may want to wait until after, or before the next class. :p
 
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yes, it sounds like she likes you, but are opinion doesn't matter. What do you really gain from it? Do you get to come back and shun us because it turns out she didn't like you? Here's how it is plainand simple....THERE IS ATTRACTION THERE. It could be gone be the next lesson because of your inability to do ANYTHING, or maybe she talks to you and finds out that you aren't her type of guy. To me it looks doomed from the start because she's more than likely been on your mind 24/7 and you think she's the prize. Read Pooks new post in the tips section.
 
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No she has not been on my mind 24/7.. Im just getting bored in school already and wouldnt mind messing with someone.. Thanks for your response though.... Whatever, if i see her before class or after ill just say hi, ask her what she got on the quiz we took recently, and introduce myself and leave it at that, and then we can talk more later on, im in no rush.
 
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so you gonna play it off like you aint ever seen her staring at you, and go back to square one.... interesting. Try to have a bit of a better conversation than every single college/university student seems to be having. I'm not saying you gotta always rush it, but this aint high school anymore, this is college, the gurls are looking for the right excuse to date (but more likely f0ck) somebody. It will most likely be the guy that says something more than "Hi< didya do the homework" I mean that's elementary sh!t
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Yankees, you always wait too long to make your moves - quit hesitating and take action - you and she seem to have enough interest in each other - talk to her and ask her out to go roller skating! or skydiving, or something besides exchanging glances!! :)

HESITATION KILLS!!!! BE A MAN AND DO YOUR DUTY - QUIT STALLING!!
 
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YANKES13 !

Im in a very boring college art class that started couple weeks ago.. At the beginning i saw this girl she seems pretty shy, and quiet and sits all the way in the front, i sit alll the way in the corner in the back... Last week i walk in to class i take my seat, then later she comes in and takes her seat and seems to notice me and looks at me (seemed like she liked what she saw, or didnt know such a cutie was in her class lol)
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TALK TO HER TODAY !

I'm a med student, and had this happen to me. This chick was totally checking me out for days across the room...

BUT like a dumbass, I did nothing. (Was oneitising on a chick I wanted first)

Now my buddy is banging her....

HB8 too.

She was looking for the ****, man. And I passed it up. Your chick may be the same way....
 
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