"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Not sure if personal trainer at gym is interested...

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Long story short, I've been single for almost 2 years now, never really been interested in dating, more so just into myself and being the best version of me.

Of course with this, I'm completely oblivious/not aware of the "obvious signs" from women, as like I said, just into myself.

I joined a new gym back in August, and through continual workouts, I eventually started noticing a particular personal trainer. Every so often I'd ask her for the weight belt, sometimes make a comment about the music, but never really went further.

Lately though, seems like there have been some 'signs' and I'll list them;

1. I'll catch her looking at me during a workout
2. She'll find her way to walk by me even if it seems out of the way
3. I've passed her in the hallway before and both smiled
4. Shot hoops (have a basketball court at the gym) and missed a shot, she threw the ball back to me

Earlier today I was about to squat and right before I went under the bar, she was heading my way, but as soon as I got under the bar, she diverted her course, almost as if she was going to say something but then didn't...

I mainly go to the gym just to work out and have a good time, listening to tunes and what not. Just curious if this trainer might be intrigued / possibly interested in me. It should be noted that a ton of dudes try and hit on her, and I don't.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Long story short, I've been single for almost 2 years now, never really been interested in dating, more so just into myself and being the best version of me.

Of course with this, I'm completely oblivious/not aware of the "obvious signs" from women, as like I said, just into myself.

I joined a new gym back in August, and through continual workouts, I eventually started noticing a particular personal trainer. Every so often I'd ask her for the weight belt, sometimes make a comment about the music, but never really went further.

Lately though, seems like there have been some 'signs' and I'll list them;

1. I'll catch her looking at me during a workout
2. She'll find her way to walk by me even if it seems out of the way
3. I've passed her in the hallway before and both smiled
4. Shot hoops (have a basketball court at the gym) and missed a shot, she threw the ball back to me

Earlier today I was about to squat and right before I went under the bar, she was heading my way, but as soon as I got under the bar, she diverted her course, almost as if she was going to say something but then didn't...

I mainly go to the gym just to work out and have a good time, listening to tunes and what not. Just curious if this trainer might be intrigued / possibly interested in me. It should be noted that a ton of dudes try and hit on her, and I don't.
Ask her.
 
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